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RE: Sex, Money & Sugar
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“The “Sex, Money and Sugar” post struck a nerve with me, as I do NOT plan on becoming intimate with my future SD under any circumstances. There is absolutely no compromising or negotiating in this area for me. In fact, the very idea of sex thoroughly disgusts me! I’m certain I’m not the only sugar who shares this sentiment (minus the palpable disgust, of course).
Not only have I submitted and read a few comments in previous posts reflecting same, but I’ve given and received the suggestion that giving up the sugar search altogether is the only solution. I personally have suspended my search for personal reasons, but just the same I’d like to finish what I’ve started with renewed confidence. If my search takes longer than average (whatever that is; I understand results vary), so be it.” -Novemberaine~306712
What are your thoughts on sexless sugar?
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702 Responses to “RE: Sex, Money & Sugar”
1. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 9:17 am
Hmmm sexless sugar. Is there really such a thing and would you really what their to be? Sex is a natural progression in a relationship. Many people have view about sex in sugar. DO I think you should have sex just for the money, NO!! But I think if you have chemistry and you like each other and attracted to each other then I feel where is the debate?
I think it unrealistic to have sexless sugar. I don’t think an SD or SB should base a relationship on purely sex and money. There may be some SD’s who want just a companion. But I think that is rare. I think most of us know there will inevitably be sex involved. I don’t think it should be a stipulation on how much or if you receive money. This is a mutually beneficial relationship. “Benefits” range with many different things, depending on what that person is looking for. The great thing about this type of relationship is you can decide for yourself what is right for you and base your search on that. Not everyone agrees on what a mutual beneficial relationship is I think it’s a personal choice.
2. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 9:32 am
I guess you could look at it as a way of going along with what so many men say in their profiles “i’m looking to pay for sex or trade money for sex” if they give you money and you don’t have sex with them, afterall they were not looking to pay for sex, so in a way they wouldn’t be lol
Good morning everyone. It was nice to sleep in on a saturday. Going to take a shower now, be back in a bit
3. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 9:41 am
I do have a potential meeting for lunch next week which for me can only be on friday since I work the rest of the days and spending memorial day with family. Of course there is the issue that hasn’t been brought up and that’s me not having a car. we might meet for lunch but he is pressed for time but he thinks he can do it, however since he does not live in Houston, as it seems no sds actually live in the city, it will involve a 15 mile drive which I look to be an issue with him since he is pressed for time. A 15 mile drive in Houston can take an hour with the horrible traffic in my area.
4. SouthernGent2 Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 9:43 am
There are a number of profiles on SA that state she is not willing to have sex as part of the arrangement. They are willing to offer companionship and nothing more. That is their personal choice, and I respect them for it.
5. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 9:46 am
SouthernGent2 I agree and They say it upfront. Open and honest. Not trying to lead anyone on and letting pot Sd’s know that a relationship with them will be that way.
6. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:01 am
edit “not” wanting to pay for sex well if the guy says that he usually means he wants sex without paying but if he pays and gets no sex, it’s kinda what he asked for, lol sorry i’m still trying to wake up this morning.
7. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:03 am
Handing Lisa some coffee pass it to panther next he is trying to stay awake at his office. I have a 3 day weekend!! I am awake and happy :) I hear thunder though :( going to storm again soon.
8. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:06 am
I am trying to find thing that are fin for the boys to do that won’t cost money. Just starting work again and being paid every 2 weeks (only got one check so far) if a little difficult.
The boys want to go see the new star trek movie. Told them I will take them next weekend when I get paid.
9. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:06 am
I have a three day weekend, sort of , I was off friday, today saturday and monday but have to work tomorrow. they tried to take monday away from me and wanted me to work but I told them I already have plans.
10. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:07 am
someone needs a sugardaddy lol
I get paid weekly which is great
11. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:09 am
I don’t need a sugar daddy, I want one lol. I make plenty of money it’s just being out of work for a month I had to catch up on some bills. So things are a little tight right now. It will be better soon :)
12. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:14 am
I am currently doing ok with paying the bills, buying food as I got a little raise and a few more hours so i’m actually making close to 1k now but I want spending money, I want a small flatscreen tv, and a new bedroom bedding set as I have had the same comforter for 3 years and althoulth it still looks great I want to change the look of my bed, make it more cozy, inviting. I saw some really nice bedding by 1891 Steff or something like that that would cost 600 dollars to dress my bed, but it’s sooo nice
13. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:16 am
I went through that “catching up” last october when I started my new job.
14. Stormcat Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:22 am
I personally find the whole idea, of permanently restricting the direction or quality of the elements of any honest relationship, unnecessary and a disservice to the parties. I think that relationships should evolve without ultimate limitations as each person’s desires and personal values grow. Must have sex, never have sex, strings, no strings, drama, no drama, gifts only no support, no gifts only support, etc. etc. need to be flexibly arranged in mutality with room for change as the need, trust, and experiential familiarity develops.
15. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:24 am
Stormcat so true. But sometimes because of the ones that have been taken advantage of they are unwilling to take a chance. And that is unfortunate.
16. Stormcat Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:25 am
Hey SweetRed, Lisa, SG.
Good Morning
17. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:28 am
Good morning :) I was up at 6am lol. Used to getting up for work. And not used to sitting around either. I may get up and get to cleaning my house soon. I am procrastinating.
18. Doug Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:29 am
Really depends on the person’s view of what a SD or SB situation is.
If it consists of mutiple partners, sex or not, then not really a SD/SB situation.
I don’t really think that a female would expect a man how she is seeing as a SD to do so without sex involved and I definately can’t see any male agreeing to an ongoing no sex arrangement.
That being said, when I read ads as the above, I think they are simply offering companionship to mutiple men who aren’t looking for sex.
Having travelled frequently for business, I have encountered a lot of different situations.
In Australia for example, there are a few strip clubs, which allow the clients to book a tdate with the dancer, which requires in advance informing where they are going, regular telephone ocontact with the manger during the date and they actually have people go to the venues to ensure that the they are where they said they will be. A no sex companionship date.
This happens more frequently than not.
A great business opportunity for someone who wants to set up a business to provide no sex companionship to business travllers because there is obviously a demand.
19. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:29 am
I think everything should be discussed beforehand to avoid wasting time. I will not meet a man who will not discuss allowance and arrangment expectations. I prefer men who come out and ask me what I expect rather those who just want to meet to see what happens. And as far as getting intimate before any spoiling has been done, I could not do that as I would be preoccupied with the thought “is this guy using me, is he going give his share, etc” nothing puts the dampers in intimacy more than having thoughts like that in your mind. I understand sex is a part of this and is expected and is not a problem for me if there is attraction but sex is not the prize for me as a woman can get sex, she doesn’t have to put an ad on a site to get it. I’ve got a great lover already so that is not my motivation for seeking a sd. I like money, pure and simple
20. Stormcat Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:30 am
Sweetred, that’t still part of the development, helping the other regain the mutual trust we all so long to experience. Absolutes layed down initial restricts that progression and interferes with the further development of the realtionship after the injury heals.
21. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:32 am
Good morning Doug and welcome to the blog. Glad you could join us. Thank you for your incite. I think we need more Sd’s to give there opinions. We are all just here to learn from each other :)
22. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:36 am
Lisa, How can you know if you even want an arrangement with that person unless you meet them fist? I think it’s a waste of time to talk about it in to much detail unless you actually meet first and see if there is a chemistry. I agree you can talk about what you are looking for, what your expectation are if you want. But in the end you have to meet. Think about it. You talk about what you can give him and he can give you, then you meet and there is nothing there. Now you have wasted your time in discussing all of that.
23. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:44 am
At least I know before I meet him if we are on the same page, kinda like when you go to apply for a job, you want to know a little about the pay, benefits, hours before you go for an interview and you may not get the job anyway but you don’t just show up at any place and apply.
I find it easier to discuss those details with someone who is not staring me in the face, as when you actually meet face to face it’s a little more awkward discussing it in public.
24. Stormcat Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:49 am
Lisa - I think you would be much more successful in your relationships if you strived to realize a deeper understand of others relative to you. You are very open here on the blog so it is easy to view your internal attitudes. I actually believe your last SD probably retreated because he felt the indifference toward him that you expressed to us here on the blog. You were probably very nice to him on the surface but subconciously people are very astute to others’ attitudes. So although he wouldn’t be able to articulate the reason he was most likely simply uneasy with the arrangement and couldn’t develop the trust that he needed to continue in it.
25. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:53 am
I agree with stormcat. you can’t be closed off emotionally. That can be seen as not caring. I think people need to be open minded and honest with each other. Even with a NSA relationship or any relationship for that matter. If you seem indifferent that can be viewed as pushing someone away.
26. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:53 am
my last sd is not from this blog or this site. We got along fine, he was just old and I guess not motivated enough. We shared the same political views (it’s very hard to find someone with strong replublican views like I have), same view on problems in our society,etc. I have ran into many people too lazy to drive to see me. The fact that I don’t own a car seems to put a damper in how people view me. I will not be quiet though as beign nice and giving and all has gotten me nowhere but used in almost every relationship i’ve had in the past, including my ex husband.
27. gurlnextdoor*274735* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:14 am
What are your thoughts on sexless sugar?
Sexless sugar, umm I don’t really think it’s possible. When a man and a woman get together and start a romantic relationship which is often illicit in it’s nature, sex usually is part of that equation at some point. Granted, for some sexless sugar may be possible, but I’m going to guess that for 98% of people involved in sugar relationships it’s not going to happen.
Now, in other news, I have great news. My SD from last night emailed me this morning. He said he had a great time and although I wasn’t what he expected I was still very very delightful! :) He also said he had some doubts about whether or not things would work due to the fact that I live at home and our two differing work schedules. For instance, he’s worried that I may not be able to leave on a weekend trip on short notice. Lol, I will pick a weekend trip over work any day. But we’re going to give it a try for a week and see how things go. Tonight he’s taking me out to dinner too, which will be nice. So I’ll keep everyone updated.
28. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:16 am
gurlnextdoor that’s great, Hope you have a wonderful time. Things can always be worked out if you truly want it too :)
29. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:18 am
that’s great news gurlnextdoor
30. Stormcat Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:18 am
Lisa, not saying anything about what you should or shouldn’t say in a relationship. You have to defend yourself. I also realized that you’re last SD was not on the blog. I was saying that we, here on the blog, get to know a side of you that is probably not likely available to others in your life off-line. What I saw in your posts here was an attitude of indifference about that particular SD, and it may have come accros subconciously without either of you realizing it.
31. gurlnextdoor*274735* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:18 am
I have to agree with lisa on discussing the arrangement before meeting. I don’t want to meet a guy only to find out that he wants to meet 3 times a week when I’m only looking to meet once a week with occasional weekend trips. It saves both people time and to be honest I’m glad me and my SD talked about all of that before meeting. It made our coffee date alot more enjoyable because we could focus on getting to know one another and it wasn’t wondering to myself “hmm now how much does he think he’s gonna see me” or “I hope he isn’t some cheap bastard who thinks $500 a month is gonna get me to see him 3 times a week”.
32. Stormcat Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:21 am
Hey GND! I’m keeping my fingers crossed.
33. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:21 am
That what I meant by briefly talking about it before hand. But nothing has to be set in stone before you meet or even in the getting to know each other stage.
34. katrina Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:25 am
Good morning, All.
Gosh I love Saturdays!
GurlND- that is awesome - best of luck
Lisa - your posts made me feel a little sad. I wonder how you can meet some wonderful man who is sweet and generous (and willing to drive) but I am not sure you even want that. Stormcat and Red are right - you may be subconsciously sending out signals of ‘Show me the money!’ without meaning to. It sounds as though when in the past you have opened up to others, they have let you down and hurt you. Now you are so wounded it has become a self-fulfilling prophecy. I honestly with you would win a lottery and not bother with these SDs/potential SDs because I think that would make you happier. There really ARE good people (including SDs) out there but you need to open yourself up to that. Positive attracts positive. I hope you are not upset with these comments - just worried.
35. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:25 am
I agree gurlnextdoor as I wouldn’t want to meet a man who wanted to see me 3 times a week for pocket change either. You need to get a feel for what the guy is about, what he has to offer and expects. When I was doing regular dating I dont’ know how many times I met a guy to find out in a few minutes that he had been divorced 3 times, had small children, was out of work, etc things that he could have mentioned while we were chatting for weeks. Now I want to know before hand as my time is limited.
Stormcat I dont’ know about my attitude but I have many friends and get along find with them. I used to be mealy mouthed and let people walk all over me but not any more. I got along fine with my sd. We still email each other.
36. Stormcat Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:25 am
Well I got to go to work. It’s starting to rain and I need to get everything unloaded and inside. You guys all sent the rain the wrong way yesterday. We don’t need it up here yet! :D
37. katrina Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:27 am
ps I slept through BOTH yoga sessions this morning. I blame the late-night blogging!
38. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:28 am
Stormcat oops sorry. WE still have rain here :( have fun!
39. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:29 am
katrina you are officially addicted to the blog lmao
40. katrina Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:30 am
Sweetred - this blog is a blessng and a curse! It is like getting addicted to a tv show - I don’t want to miss anything!
41. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:30 am
Well most of these guys talk about wanting a passionate woman and hint of intimacy and stuff which equals sex, so why then is it inappropriate to discuss finances? I find it odd that so many men discuss the physical before meeting too but both parties are looking to have their needs met so I don’t see any harm in being upfront.
42. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:32 am
During the week I just do not have time to be on here. And the late nights I can’t do because of work. I miss a lot :(
43. Vegas Mermaid Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:33 am
NOT AGAIN! Another one for you ladies! Just had a SD send several photos to my cell phone. Pictures in sequence of him “jerking off” to finish. Why am I the crap magnet?! I never lead him on for him to think this was appropriate! He then texted me and wanted to see a picture of my “pu**y” so I sent him a picture of my cat “Oddie” and texted him to go to hell!
44. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:33 am
Lisa there is no harm in being up front and honest to find out if you might be a match. But I don’t think everything has to worked out right away. Sometimes it’s just nice to let thing happen.
45. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:35 am
I just heard from my sd and he wants to see me this coming week so we’ll se what happens.
Gotta go now to cook chicken for my family as they will be here shortly.
Be back later this evening. Have a good day.
46. Beach_Girl*306486 Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:36 am
Hey sugars!!!
Vegas Mermaid~ i totally get those too lol, i got a video of a guy jerking off lol, You did good with the cat Oddie photo! you go girl!
47. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:40 am
Vegas Mermaid wtf?? That is just so inappropriate!! I like the way you handled it girl! Too funny!
48. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:41 am
Hey beach_girl. Get out of my head!!! lmao
49. Beach_Girl*306486 Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:41 am
Hey Sweetred!!! lol
50. katrina Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:42 am
VegasMermaid - Poor Oddie! : ) That was the perfect response, though. I wonder if Alexander Graham Bell had any idea what would come of his invention…: )
Lisa - have fun today with your family over. Tell your daughter to play nice with Percy : )
51. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:45 am
I had a sd who I asked to send me a picture of himself, sent me one fully exposed!! NOT what I was looking for!! DELETE!!
52. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:47 am
Morning sugar peeps! I’ve been up since two, so please forgive me if I misspell words, ramble, or otherwise embarrass myself. :P
Regarding the topic-I think sex is an option, not a requirement. I’m sure most of the SDs, and SMs for that matter, are hoping for or desiring some type of physical gratification, but there are exceptions to every rule. Sex shouldn’t be a standard or norm, but it also shouldn’t be dismissed ;) If you dig them, you dig them. Let the clothes fall where they may :D
Also, it seems the person who wrote the quoted excerpt above was expecting her SD to be a hideous ghoul lol There are some out there, but there are a lot of FINE FINE FINE SDs too. I wouldn’t go into a situation that is meant to be open and different with preconceived notions outside of what common sense wold dictate lol You limit yourself and your potential experience.
53. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:48 am
Damn it! I spelled things wrong anyway…I meant ‘would’
54. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:48 am
:P
55. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:50 am
Morning jai :)
56. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:54 am
Morning sweetred :)
57. Beach_Girl*306486 Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:55 am
Hello jai~
58. Beach_Girl*306486 Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:56 am
Well Sugars I am off
talk to you all soon
59. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:57 am
Hey Beach! :) Where’s my smiley face? HFJC bylaws clearly state that every post, email, letter and text message must contain at least 1 smiley/emoticon :P
60. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:58 am
Have a good day Beach :D
61. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:59 am
>:D< let’s see if this one works. Just for you jai :)
62. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 12:00 pm
didn’t work :( how about this one ~x(
63. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 12:00 pm
Is that hug Red? Oh, who cares? :D It looks happy, I’ll take it.
64. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 12:00 pm
:-P one more try
65. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 12:01 pm
Yes was suppose to be the hug but it didn’t work :(
66. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 12:02 pm
Aw thank you Red. I need a hug lol :)
67. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 12:07 pm
My hair has gotten long enough to put into a pony tail!! hahaha the little things that make me happy.
68. gurlnextdoor*274735* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 12:09 pm
Thanks everyone for your well wishes.
Jai I agree, I think the blogger was expecting a Quasimodo look-a-like lol. Personally if I can’t be physically attracted to a SD in some shape or form, then I will not be with him. I know my SD is tall (6′3) and has nice black hair with a hint of grey, it’s so sexy. And he has a sexy Greek accent which I noticed as soon as he ordered my hot chocolate. But that’s just me.
69. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 12:12 pm
OMG sweetred! Mine too. I noticed it yesterday :P Are you living my life over there in Florida? lol
Hey gurl! :) I agree with you agreeing with me lol and I second your opinion. I’m not going to waste my time with a man I wouldn’t normally talk to if the money wasn’t a factor. An SD isn’t going to do it for me lol They’re looking for something and so are we.
70. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 12:15 pm
lol Jai I really need a hair cut, But I was thinking I would keep the same style but in a longer version of it. The style I have is short in the back and long on the sides. With a poof on the top :) If you know what i mean.
71. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 12:16 pm
It does not show it in the picture I have on the site. i was playing in the pool all day and my hair was flat lol
72. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 12:18 pm
I am waiting to get my hair cut to take some more pictures for the site :)
73. gurlnextdoor*274735* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 12:18 pm
Yep, I mean a SD or SM won’t get a SB if they aren’t attracted to her/him, so why should a SB get a (wo)man as his or her SD/SM if (s)he isn’t sexually attracted to them as well?
74. gurlnextdoor*274735* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 12:19 pm
Well I’m off to go clean up. See everyone later;.
75. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 12:20 pm
Very true gurlnextdoor. Everyone has a difference of who and what attracts them. But I also could not be with an SD that I was not attracted too.
76. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 12:25 pm
Exactly gurl. I think THAT turns it into sex for money and borderline prostitution. Basically, you’re only giving him or her the time of day because they have the finances.
I have an asymmetrical cut Red. Short in the back, long in the front (copycat :P ), the left front side is a bit angled and longer than the right though. :) I’m not cutting my hair until I get into med school. I decided that just now lol
77. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 12:28 pm
The person I go to it cost me $70 to have my hair cut. I refuse to go to anyone else. Did that once a 7months back and ughhh what a disaster. Had to go to my normal hairdresser have her fix it and now waiting for it to grow out some more to get exactly what I want. I figure the longer I can stand it the better it will be :)
78. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 12:30 pm
Ok ladies and gents. Have things to do. Procrastinating is NOT getting things done. bbl.
79. SBMaple Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 12:31 pm
It is just there are people out there ( not much though i guess) who have some sort of sexual dysfunctions, I guess if they can’t have sex they will be more than happy to have a SB who does not want have sex. :)
80. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 12:32 pm
:) I lucked out with the hairstylist I was going to. She could take a picture with only a frontal view and customize it to a face. Any time I walk out of any place and patrons, as well as employees, are ‘oohing and ahhing’ lol I know I’m in good hands. She said I had an easy face to couple different styles with and it made it fun for her.
81. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 12:33 pm
Peace Red :)
82. bob Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 1:07 pm
hey everyone
stormcat - arn’t you supposed to be installing plumbing in your cabin and not jerking around on the bog?
Sweetred, Jai, lisa(percy) and everone high
83. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 1:13 pm
Hi bob-o. Hope you’re having a good day :)
84. bob Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 1:17 pm
I am going to stay on topic for once. Sexless suger is the same thing as going to a strip club. SB(that only wants frind) puts up a profile and says lets see how stupbid(sp) men really are. then complaines when men are not the dumb. And If you want to bring up the arm candy thing that is just sad. Do I belive some men have done it. yes. but I think they have problems to begain with. I belive most men will be with the ugliest woman on the plantet before they get hustled. SB/SD is dating just without all the strings attached. getting of soap box now.
TITS and BOOBS
85. Panther SD Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 1:36 pm
Finally done working for a few hours!!!!
Sorry i vanished for a while SweetRed.. had to put out some fires on my end.
Sexless sugar? I have no problem with a SB posting no sex ever, that makes it easy for me to cross her off the list. Does this type of relationship exisit? Sure, I’m sure it does. Is it prominent amound SDs? I would hazard a guess somewhere between no and HELL NO.
I have come across some SBS that are of the opinion they are entitiled to ANYTHING they want becuase they are a female. When asked what are they willling to bring to relationship the reply is “coversation” or an “compassionate ear”.
Aagain if the SB posts sex is out of the question i have no problem with that. I just find it…. interesting.
86. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 1:36 pm
LMAO@bob you go!!
And stop looking at my pictures sheeeh (tits and boobs)
87. bob Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 1:37 pm
Got one for the girls. Going to a pool party today at some friends house. Every year they do a diffrent invitation. Last year a kids flip-flop with the information written on it. This year a small inflatable beach ball with the information written on it. Then the have it sent out UPS with signiture required so that you are personnal handed your invitation. They are the Martha Stewarts of our group. can not spell today to save my life
88. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 1:39 pm
Panther SD No problem I vanished for awhile myself :)
I agree with you. What can SHE bring to the table. Sorry but you have to be more than a pretty face. That’s all fine and good. But when it comes down to a relationship like this, you need to bring more to the table.
89. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 1:40 pm
BOB??? what is the question?? lmao
90. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 1:45 pm
I have a question, why is it we all seem to say men and sex. Umm hello I like sex too. It should not be given as a reward, or held over someones head. It’s fun and exciting and should be treated in such a way. I have no inhibitions talking about sex or any part of it. BUT there is an appropriate time.
91. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 1:45 pm
Now I am talking to myself, where did everyone go????
92. bob Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 1:46 pm
no question just thought y’all might think that is cute.
This is the same party every year when a male will say something really profound. Last year it was “Every woman is just one kiss away from being a full blown lesbien and all chicks secretly love porn). His wife yelled at him fro the rest of the day. The rest ofwomen decided they full blown lesbo’s and for thier drunk husbands to stay away from them. It is a really fun group
93. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 1:48 pm
Sounds like it bob. I personally I would be in the men’s group, but that’s me. I prefer to hang out with the men they are more fun :)
94. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 1:48 pm
Sounds fun bob-o lol when can sweetred and I come visit? :P
95. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 1:49 pm
So true sweetred :) Men are way more relaxed and easy going a lot of the time
96. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 1:50 pm
Sweetred can you proof read something for me? lol it’s for a scholarship :D
97. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 1:51 pm
I usually only get along with woman who are like me. prefer to be with the men lol See why we get along so well Jai lol
98. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 1:51 pm
sure send it to me :)
99. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 1:53 pm
Lol yep :)
Thanks in advance. You’ll have mail shortly and don’t spare my feelings in your critique, I need this money lol
100. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 2:03 pm
Jai that is awesome!! I think it’s a winner!
101. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 2:08 pm
Thank you sweetred. It’s always good to have another opinion :)
102. bob Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 2:10 pm
had to take a shower
103. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 2:11 pm
good thing bob was wondering what that smell was :)
104. bob Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 2:13 pm
lol
105. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 2:13 pm
lol sweetred :P
106. johnq Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 2:15 pm
Getting back to the original topic here,I can’t imagine being in an SD-SB relationship that didn’t involve sex. That’s not because of the money aspect, but because I wouldn’t date any woman for a considerable period of time without sex. I understand and respect that intimacy may take time and chemistry and the two parties getting to know each other, but a completely and permanently sexless relationship would not work for me.
And if there are any SDs out there who would agree to a sexless relationship, either in a sugar context or a non-sugar context, I suspect they are few and far between.
However, I think all the comments on this subject are overlooking a key point. I don’t have any problem with novemberraine (who I believe is more currently referring to herself as raine) not wanting to have sex, nor even that she’s disgusted at the very thought of sex. That’s between her and whomever she dates. I do have a problem, however, with her profile, which somehow fails to mention that sex is completely off the table. In my opinion, that’s dishonest, since it’s concealing a fact that is going to be highly material to the vast majority of SDs.
JQ
107. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 2:18 pm
That was mentioned :) About being honest and putting that aspect or preference in your profile.
108. bob Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 2:18 pm
good point johnq
109. Scully Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 2:20 pm
Ok,
My two cents on sexless sugar. IF you can find that, great! However, in my limited experience it’s usually an unspoken expectation. I won’t deny it, I LOVE sex. But it doesn’t mean that I want a full time relationship and personally I find the idea of being a baby incredibly naughty and sexy. I guess one could say it’s because it’s the forbidden fruit, kinda like making out in the car before you went home as a kid! I like being on the downlow with dating and because I’ve two teenaged girls, I don’t want to have them asking me questions that I’m not ready to answer yet. I’ve yet to find a guy who wants me to share time with him without some expectation.
Vegas, sorry about the guy doin that to you, it sucks when you’ve bad apples in the barrel, don’t give up though, he’s out there some where.
Panther, if you don’t mind me asking, what do you do? I looked at your profile, you seem pretty darn buff! I’m still working my way around the blog and still getting to know people, but I think…………no I know……..I am becoming so addicted to the blog! It’s so neat to hear the stories of everyone on here as to dates and potential people.
:)
Scully
110. Scully Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 2:22 pm
Jai what did you end up doin with the lil puppers? There are so many posts at times, it’s hard to keep up and find out ;)
Scully
111. bob Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 2:27 pm
well I am off to the pool party. The next time you hear from me I will be drunk or hung over.
Take care
112. Scully Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 2:27 pm
Ok one last thought and it’s probably a little taboo and I was working up the nerve to ask…..I’ve had several conversations with SDs and their expectations regarding money. I’m pretty easy to get along with, but how do you put it to your daddy that you’re looking for a certain amount? I’ve had offers of things like per visits and the one time I did accept that with the first SD I ever had, we met the next day he gave me cash, we agreed on an amount. When we met the second time, when the physical activity was over, the expectation was set that he would give me another envelope, now I don’t mean to sound selfish or greedy, but he didn’t hand me an envelope. I was puzzled, so I waited to see if it would happen the next day, we ended up not meeting and he told me he was having an issue with giving me cash, it felt uncomfortable. I can understand that and he was very upset when he wanted to meet again and I decided to wait. He mentioned very quickly he was having some financial strain because he was paying for his daughter’s attorney.
That all being said, how do you prevent the scenario of the second meeting happening again? Any advice, both guys and gals, I’ll take any advice I can get. I think I have a potential and I don’t wanna do this again……
Thanks,
Scully
113. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 2:28 pm
Lmao Bob have fun. We will be more than happy to take advantage of you in your drunken state :)
114. Jessica Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 2:33 pm
For me, sex is a natural part of a relationship of this nature and I must admit that I find it incredibly hot to be babied..
Btw, Scully, are you Scully like in Dana Scully? *x-files fanatic all the way*
115. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 2:34 pm
Scully you can’t predict what will happen. Things change sometimes. You can not hold that against all SD’s There are little hints and ways to talk to a pot SD to find out what he is all about. But that’s something you have to really learn on your own and put your own spin on it. I personally just chat with a potential. Get to know the person, not as a pot SD but as a potential friend. It works for me.
116. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 2:36 pm
I think it kind of throws them off lol. They are not used to someone just chatting with them and I think it makes them let their guard down a bit. Not that it is a “trick” It’s just the way I am.
117. Jessica Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 2:39 pm
Oh my god, I’m so stupid! Now I realized that a “pot” SD is a potential, not a pothead or an idiot..
Gee, I have to remove the part in my profile that says intelligent
118. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 2:39 pm
It’s the way I have always been with men. I have a lot of male friends because I have no expectation just friendship. If it turns into something more than great. But it’s not what my intentions are.
119. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 2:40 pm
LMAO@Jessica And welcome to the blog!
120. Jessica Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 2:42 pm
Thanks sweetred, I think I have to go hide under a rock or something until I do something smart again
121. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 2:46 pm
It’s ok we all have our moments lol
122. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 3:00 pm
He’s still here Scully :) Getting his nuggets chopped off next Thursday.
123. Beach_Girl*306486 Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 3:09 pm
Bob~ pool party??? where are you at i want in.. :P . lol , my pool is still green!!!
Hey and welcome to the newbies! :D
Gotta finish this pool stuff, i hurt all over now, I’m not strong enough :D
Jai~ sorry i forgot :D :) ;) :P
124. Beach_Girl*306486 Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 3:11 pm
Oh btw, i need help, what is good to order in? i’m so not cooking tonight
Besides pizza, coz i don’t eat that!
125. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 3:18 pm
You want delivery or can you pick it up? Alot of resutrants take to go orders but they don’t deliver.
126. SFsuga Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 3:21 pm
Beach: Order Thai food good and good for you.
I want to comment on the topic of a sexless SD/SB relationship: I would argue that an SB withholding sex is like an SD withholding money.
There are varied opinions of what this type of arrangement should be. I have met a handful of SD’s who wanted to date me a number of times before we had sex and a few of these guys didn’t want to give me any sort of compensation while we went through this dating process. That’s not for me.
I have always expected sex and money to occur by the second date.
127. Beach_Girl*306486 Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 3:21 pm
Delivery!!!
128. Beach_Girl*306486 Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 3:22 pm
SFbaby~ they don’t deliver, and i so don’t feel like going to get anything,,, all the asian cooking places don’t deliver here, well the fake chinese food maybe!
129. SFsuga Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 3:25 pm
I have an SD right now who meets my monthly expectations and whom I actually like. This is new for me since I couldn’t stand my last few SD’s, but I put up with them because they paid my rent. I honestly thought that it was impossible to actually enjoy being with an SD. I really lucked out with this guy and I hope that our affair will last for a long time. It seems too good to be true.
130. RedMaru*210789* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 3:46 pm
So this where you all went…lol Hey everybody :D
Just here drying off GA just had a shower and speed read through the postings
Sexless sugar…hmmmm I don’t know about that. Its nice and all but like sweetred just posted I don’t think its realistic. I saw sex as the next step in this kinda of relationship. I totally agree with sweetreds first post.
131. Island_Muse Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 4:15 pm
Hey RedMaru, Is it just us?
I’m in GA too. Which city are you in, if you dont mind my asking. I need you to send me some of that rain you’re talking about - I’m in Johns Creek, near Alpharetta :P
I fininshed with my Habitat house today-it’s a good kind of tired but Man…can I tell you??
Did have some energy left and decided to finish planting my vegetable garden because I thought rain was in the forecast -but haven’t seen it yet.
132. Island_Muse Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 4:19 pm
Bye for now all, going to have a glass of wine then go take a nap and wake up just in time for the weekend festivities - can’t partake much though. I am sore in places I didn’t know you use to carpent ;)
I will dream up my input to the sexless arrangement…Hmmm
133. raine Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 4:27 pm
Hi, all.
First off, thank you, JohnQ, for saving me the chore of outing myself and reminding me that I need to completely edit/overhaul my profile*—heh. *I’d planned to do that anyway, but of course civilian life got in the way. That, and dishonesty by omission wasn’t my intention: I’m still trying to figure this out.
Well, I’m not expecting anyone Quasimoto style to come along (as mentioned upthread), and I was hella nervous about coming in here (I didn’t expect the post to be put up that quickly). I’m not a prude by any stretch of the imagination, and I wanted to pick some brains on both sides about this matter. Did I mention I’m still trying to figure this out?
134. RedMaru*210789* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 4:27 pm
Hey Island_Muse I hope you catch before you leave but I live in Midtown Atlanta.
I was starting to get lonely and I think we are the only ones…
135. raine Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 4:27 pm
Hi, all.
First off, thank you, JohnQ, for saving me the chore of outing myself and reminding me that I need to completely edit/overhaul my profile*—heh. *I’d planned to do that anyway, but of course civilian life got in the way. That, and dishonesty by omission wasn’t my intention: I’m still trying to figure this out.
Well, I’m not expecting anyone Quasimoto style to come along (as mentioned upthread), and I was hella nervous about coming in here (I didn’t expect the post to be put up that quickly). I’m not a prude by any stretch of the imagination, and I wanted to pick some brains on both sides about this matter. Did I mention I’m still trying to figure this out? :|
136. RedMaru*210789* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 4:28 pm
Oh johnq’s here
Hey johnq :D
hi raine
137. raine Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 4:34 pm
[Dang it! Sorry for the double post, folks. Another sign of my nerves.] Hi, RedMaru.
Unrealistic and effin’ impossible—got it. Looks like I may have to delete my profile and slave at a second job ’til I’m feelin’ somewhat frisky again~lol. Well, I’m not totally hostile to the idea, just not having it now. :|
138. RedMaru*210789* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 4:38 pm
raine…wait wait wait
Don’t give up just yet….it may just take you a little longer. I’ve seen some who ask for a companion
139. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 4:48 pm
raine no need to explain yourself. You do what is right for you. There is nothing wrong with what you want. We were just saying it is not the norm. No one is judging you. Hell I commend you for sticking to your guns, and what you want.
140. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 4:50 pm
SFsuga you sound like an escort. Sorry just my opinion. Your way seems like sex for money.
141. RedMaru*210789* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 4:51 pm
hey sweetred…GA got some of that rain you sent us….lol
I’m drying off now as we speak
142. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 4:52 pm
lol. WE have had it all week!! so tired of being wet!! I always seem to get caught in it. lol
143. raine Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 4:52 pm
That’s the thing, RedMaru: I don’t mind the extra time required one iota (honestly, who isn’t up for a challenge every now and then?). *sigh* to wit, my brain has translated the comments thus far to “gtfoh”! I figure I’m the lone sugar-in-training (ha!) who really IS asking for too damn much. Oddly enough, this is the only thing that’s concerned me.
144. RedMaru*210789* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:00 pm
raine - Stick to your guns. You know what you want out of this and that’s good. I’m with sweetred hats off. Its rare but I know its out there…I’m rhyming again :D
145. raine Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:07 pm
Thank you, sweetredhead: I don’t explain myself in general often, but just the same, it’s one habit that I know won’t go quietly *lol*.
*I don’t quote myself much either, but I forgot something: ~to wit, my brain has translated the comments thus far to “gtfoh”!~ ETA: on the SDs’ side, anyway.
146. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:12 pm
“gtfoh”???? I Think they are just being true to themselves also, saying they would not except a non intimate relationship. Which is ok too. WE all have our preferences.
147. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:17 pm
The only problem I have with anyone is if they use someone. THAT I do have a very strong problem with and yes I will say my peace on that subject. And not be very nice about it either!
148. johnq Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:18 pm
Interestingly enough, this thread gives us polar opposite approaches to the whole sex and money thing. Raine won’t have sex period, whereas SFSuga is apparently willing to have sex with men she despises, as long as the check clears.
Of the two, I prefer Raine.
JQ
149. raine Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:21 pm
^Of course, sweetred, and I expect nothing less.
Man, I gotta do more surgery on my profile! first I was stressing about the lack of pics on same; now I have to add two more and overhaul the wording! I don’t feel like worrying again…*sigh*
150. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:22 pm
Then you have the rest of us somewhere in the middle lol
151. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:22 pm
What up sugars? :D
152. johnq Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:22 pm
Apologies, but my last post probably wasn’t completely clear. What I meant to say, is that, of the two, I’d prefer Raine as an SB, sexless relationship and all. That seems far preferable to me than sex with an SB who’s perfectly willing to fake affection.
JQ
153. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:22 pm
Don’t worry about it so much. It’s not a big deal. Relax :)
154. RedMaru*210789* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:25 pm
Hey Jai :D
hey again johnq :D
155. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:25 pm
Interesting John. I can understand some people view this as business and as such are willing to do things they wouldn’t normally do. However, I have be to able to, at the very least, enjoy your company AND stand the site of you to continue lol :) But that’s what’s great about the sweet life, it is varied in it’s definitions, approaches, and practices.
156. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:25 pm
You have morals raine and that is what matters. Someone like SFsuga seems to have none.
157. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:26 pm
Hi Maru! :)
158. RedMaru*210789* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:34 pm
Hey :D
Anybody else off Monday…3 day weekend whoo it’s like its Friday for me again
159. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:39 pm
Yep Maru, then school starts! :)
160. raine Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:41 pm
Hi, Jai.
Relaxing in progress…I can fake hair and/or nails for kicks (rare, but trying to show some sense of humor*), but not affection: that is, for the lack of a better word, criminal in this regard. Thank you again, JohnQ *slight blush*
*if the SD and I are planning a date, say, he may be like, “can you bring ‘Lola’ with you? *wink*” Lola would just be me in a blonde wig or some such. I got jokes like that. :D
161. johnq Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:45 pm
Jai,
This thing is certainly varied, as are male-female relations in general. When I was married I used to hear regularly about wives who secretly hated their husbands and had to force themselves to have sex, but who hung in there for the lifestyle. I’m not sure that’s much different from what SFSuga is doing, but from a certain perspective it’s possible to argue that prostitution isn’t qualitatively different from any of this.
So I’m not condemning anyone’s morals or business practices, with the exception that SFSuga’s dishonesty towards her clients (er, SDs) offends me. I’d like to think I’d be able to spot someone being that dishonest, but this reminds me of the fake orgasm scene in When Harry Met Sally, so who knows?
JQ
162. SFsuga Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:46 pm
She has morals because she won’t give it up? You have morals because you give it up for dinner and a pair of shoes or whatever? Please don’t talk to me about morals. You don’t know me.
I had a few bad SD experiences where I didn’t like the other guy too much (i.e. I would not have been with him if there was no reward involved). Now I have learned that there are men on here who are great people and fun to be with. I didn’t realize before that there were men like this who paid for girls. I thought they all had to be trolls.
There are countless websites where you can find men to date and just that. There are also a great number of escort sites where you can find a girl who charges by the hour.
I fall in between these two areas. I don’t want a traditional relationship, but I also don’t charge by the hour and suck six cocks in one day in order to pay my rent.
I only have one or at the most two SD’s in my life at a time and the money they give me goes directly toward my college tuition.
163. RedMaru*210789* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:48 pm
raine….lol
But I think its more harmful to fake affection than anything…kinda selfish too on the part of the faker especially if its for gain
164. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:51 pm
:) JQ, I agree with you in that I would never position myself to judge any one. This all does flirt dangerously close to prostitution, depending on who’s holding the looking glass. Should I go up and read what SFSuga said? It seems she may have claimed to be the Sugar Messiah and is now being verbally crucified lol what did I miss? :)
165. RedMaru*210789* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:52 pm
My email conversation is progressing! The SD(who I hope will be a pot SD) who emailed me actually answered me back….cue tingly feeling and actually answered my question!!! Some advice you guys how many emails should I give it before going a step further as I know some SD’s don’t like back and forth emails and want to talk on the phone. Or let him make the move…eh?
166. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:53 pm
SFSuga, what did you say up there? Lol I don’t think I’m looking at the right posts
167. RedMaru*210789* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:54 pm
Jai - whatever you missed let me know I seemed to have missed it too….grumbles. I need to hurry up and get my Internet back in my apartment…huh?
168. SFsuga Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:56 pm
I would never be with someone that I despised that much again. It got to the point where I would get physically ill every time he called. I was new to this and healing from a broken heart so I made some bad decisions.
But I have to be a bitch and say that honestly guys, would you be with a girl who wasn’t young, beautiful, intelligent and sexy?
Girls would you be with a guy who was twice your age, possibly married, and wrinkly if he wasn’t giving you any kind of compensation?
Let’s get real here.
169. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:56 pm
Congrats Maru! :) I allowed my SD to make the move. I was fortunate because he was very upfront and to the point.
170. Clea Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:58 pm
Hi y’all-
Been lurking for a while but have a dilemma related to the current topic.
I was corresponding with a pot SD for a while. I had no idea what he looked like until we met. Sex was never discussed, it seemed he was looking more for a companion. We had a nice first date over dinner and drinks, got along great but I have to be honest and say there was zero attraction on my part. He gave me a very nice gift at our first meeting and subsequent e-mails suggest he wants to go forward and I assume that means intimacy eventually.
I don’t know quite how to tell him I am not attracted to him and feel so guilty now about accepting the gift. I could never be with someone I was not attracted to for any amount of money and I just hate hurting someone’s feelings. I hear what SFSUGA is saying, that worked for her, but I could never ever do that- be with someone just because they paid my rent.
Have any of you had this dilemma where you went on a first date, received a generous gift and then determined you could not be intimate with the SD because of lack of attraction? I almost feel like I should return the gift but I guess it’s no different than a gal who goes on a first date with a guy who takes her out for a very nice dinner. I like the man very much and would want to be his friend but I highly doubt that is what he wants
Uggh~ I hate this! I really don’t think I’d be any more attracted to him the more I got to know him.
Tanks in advance for any advice from both SDs and SBs
171. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 5:59 pm
I think it is the way she phrased it. Something we all have a dislike for and gives Sb’s a bad name. I think that is why we jumped on her.
It sounded like she was prostituting herself for rent money. Being with an Sd she disliked and having sex with him. Something most of us would never do.
But if that is not what she meant then it was just a misunderstanding
172. SFsuga Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:00 pm
Let me catch you up to speed,
I outraged some people when I said that my first few SD relationships were immoral because I was just with them for the money. Redhead and JQ called me an escort even though I was only with one or two guys at a time.
173. Clea Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:00 pm
Of course I meant to say thanks in advance. I am the world’s worst typist
174. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:02 pm
Besides Jai I was thinking more the proverbial lamb to slaughter lmao
175. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:02 pm
SFSuga :) That’s what I was saying earlier. If I couldn’t see myself dealing with an SD if he was dirt poor, I’m ok with moving on. I never wanted this to be a job or a necessity. More like a chance for a new experience while I’m relatively young and my honey is still sticky lol I don’t mean honey sexually, but attractive, fun, etc etc
176. RedMaru*210789* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:03 pm
Hi clea welcome to the fold :D
177. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:04 pm
SFsuga being with men you dislike and having sex with them for money what do you call it? an SD/SB relationship? well I don’t feel that is what I would call it. But that is my opinion.
178. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:05 pm
Hi Clea :) I haven’t had that happen, but your best bet is to be honest and, if necessary, give the gift back. If he’s a gentleman, he’ll understand and move on :)
179. RedMaru*210789* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:05 pm
Well said Jai :D !
180. SFsuga Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:05 pm
Hi Clea,
I wouldn’t feel guilty about accepting a gift from that man. When you meet someone for the first time there should be no expectations on either side. It may not be what you’re used to, but these guys have money and a little gift here and there is nothing. He was probably just happy to be in your company.
181. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:06 pm
Clea I would suggest you be perfectly honest with him and tell him what you have told us. I am sure he will appreciate the honesty. As for the Gift leave that up to him.
182. SFsuga Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:07 pm
Ugh, Let’s just drop the whole prostitution debate and call me a part-time hooker. Ok?
183. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:08 pm
Red, you are too much..proverbial lamb :P
SFSuga-I see. Well, who am I to judge? :) Again, that’s why sugardom is great. It’s a learning and growing experience that will hopefully leave both parties enriched for having met and spent time together.
Let’s all *HUG* and put down our pitch forks lol the blog is free expression, right? We shouldn’t beat up another sugar for being honest…we’re going to scare the lurkers and potential contributors away :D
184. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:08 pm
We never said hooker lol, we said escort :)
185. RedMaru*210789* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:09 pm
Clea - my vote is for honesty also and let him decide if he wants it back like sweetred said
186. katrina Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:09 pm
Hi, All -
Wow - lots of heated debate on the blog today!
I have noticed that the majority of the SDs profiles do state they want CHEMISTRY so I doubt that they are bothering with this site in an effort to meet a pay-for-sex kind of girl.
I can say that I would NEVER have an intimate relationship with anyone I don’t care what he has/owns. If the relationship costs me more than it costs him then it has NO value to me. I would rather work two jobs and cut my expenses.
To me, this is a practical site that introduces SDs and SBs for a MUTUALLY beneficial relationship.
Also - not to beat up on SFsuga but I don’t have any photos on the site and just make clear in my profile that I would like to meet someone with chemistry and I have had many responses to that. I am communicating nicely via email so they still donot know what I look like. Maybe I’m a dog and maybe I’m a beauty queen, or maybe I am like a million other girls in my looks. I think that if you don’t remain true to yourself, and make excuses in an effort to justify doing what you know you should not be doing, then you end up jaded and pay the price that way.
Two jobs would be easier : )
187. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:10 pm
I don’t agree with that SFSuga lol we are all essentially trading services for money no matter how we approach it sooooooo we’d all be hookers/working women :P And I can’t bare to update my resume with that tidbit
188. Clea Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:11 pm
Hi RedMaru, Jai and SFsuga-
SFsuga- you are right, he did say he was just happy to meet me and enjoyed my company. But I think the right thing to do would be to be honest with him and offer to give the gift back and be prepared for him to accept the gift back but hope he won’t.
Curious as to what the SDs think? Would you want the SB to offer to give the gift back? I think I will just tell him that the kind of arrangement he wants is not what I need right now. Plus our age difference is just too great for me. I am 43 and he said he was 60 but appears to be closer to 70
189. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:11 pm
Very true Jai. I apologize SFsuga It’s a touchy subject.
190. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:12 pm
Hey KAT! :D
191. RedMaru*210789* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:12 pm
hi katrina!!!
192. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:15 pm
Clea, age is nothing but a number unless you are grossed out by him lol you know your limits. I know everyone’s probably tired of reading this, but my SD and I are *swallows hard* 40 years apart in age lol but it sounds like you already know it’s not going to work ;) just be honest honest honest
193. katrina Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:15 pm
Hi, Clea - I think if you are thinking and debating what to do, you are feeling guilty about keeping the gift. I will second almost everyone else’s opinion and say tell him how you feel. BUT I once had a boyfriend I was mad mad mad about - and it came out of nowhere. I mean, we met through a mutual friend and I did not even notice him. He asked me out every day for a week and I did not want to hurt his feeling but I was just NOT interested. Don’t you know I agreed to go out ONCE as friends and well, we all see where this is going….he won me over because he had such nice manners, was so considerate, intelligent, kind, thoughtful. All of that equaled sexy to me eventually. : )
194. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:16 pm
I am really nice person SFsuga :) I just take offense sometimes to something I believe in. And sex for money is something I strongly disagree with.
195. katrina Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:17 pm
Hi Jai! Hi RedMaru!
Jai - age is only a number. You and your SD seem pretty well suited but you already know that. : )
Isn’t it great when everyone works their way to the blog at the same time? One big, happy family…
196. RedMaru*210789* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:17 pm
has anybody else ever had message anxiety…cause I think I’m having an episode. I don’t want to move too fast yet I would like this one to grow into a pot SD and I still rejection fear at the same time….aaaaugh
197. katrina Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:19 pm
Sweetred is a sweetie - read back on the blogs and anyone can see that.
RedMaru - you are so cute. Just take some deep breaths and remember to be true to yourself. I really think that the SD has to kind of lead the way on this site as far as when to move ahead and then it would be up to you if you were ready or not. Don’t forget your power. : )
198. SFsuga Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:20 pm
Katrina: I have become jaded when it comes to men and relationships due to my experiences over the last two years with men from this site. I have seen countless men cheat on there wives so my view on marriage has been corrupted. I feel that I am unable to trust men and for a while I could not be with a man if I wasn’t getting anything in return. It’s a horrible feeling and if I could go back to being the sweet naive girl I was two years ago who believed in true love and fairytails I would.
Jai: I would rather not be put into the hooker, prostitute, and escort category either, but everyone is entitled to their opinions and I respect that. But I’ll fess up and say what most of us do on this site isn’t much different except we’re not doing it 24/7.
199. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:20 pm
I love it when it’s like this Kat, it’s hard to keep up but fun to try! :)
Calmate Maru :) You were fine before you met him and you’ll be fine if he leaves. This is EXTRAcurricular, it shouldn’t be stressful on either side :)
200. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:22 pm
Yep SFSuga lol if we get down to basic definitions, that is true. That’s why I can’t judge anyone :)
201. Clea Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:23 pm
Thanks everyone for the great advice. It really helped.
202. RedMaru*210789* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:24 pm
Thanks kat and jai for the votes of encouragement(breathing deeply)
You’re right jai it shouldn’t be stressful, episode has passed….exhales
203. johnq Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:25 pm
For those who for some reason can’t scroll up (or search down) to see what SFSuga originally said, here it is:
“I have an SD right now who meets my monthly expectations and whom I actually like. This is new for me since I couldn’t stand my last few SD’s, but I put up with them because they paid my rent.”
This is consistent with her later post, in which she tells us she “despised” one of her SDs and became “physically ill” when he called.
So, SFSuga, you pretended to like someone, and had sex with him, despite the fact that you despised him and he made you physically ill.
I never called you a prostitute. I have no idea whether you are or aren’t (though, for the record, the fact that you didn’t see more than two men at a time isn’t really dispositive on that question).
Instead, you’re my idea of a nightmare SB: someone in a relationship entirely for the money, and willing to continue in the relationship as long as the payments keep coming, even though talking to the SD made you physically sick.
Possibly you’re the only honest one here and everyone else is being hypocritical. If so, I prefer hypocrisy.
JQ
204. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:25 pm
Yay! Glad we could help Clea. Good luck :)
And Maru, don’t forget to inhale too :P
205. katrina Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:27 pm
I am smart enough and old enough to not believe in fairy tales but that does not mean I allow myself to be a hard shell. That would only block all the good. If ANY relationship is damaging to anyone, they should end it. Period.
We are not judgmental on the blog as much as we are protective - of everone on the site.
206. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:29 pm
Thank you for making that clear JQ :)
Maru, did you catch that? Johnny brought it down for us to read. I don’t know how I missed that.
207. RedMaru*210789* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:31 pm
Jai - yea I almost forgot about the inhaling part :P thanks for reminding me lol :D
208. RedMaru*210789* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:31 pm
Whoa - so that’s what we missed don’t worry I missed it too.
209. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:31 pm
Lol Maru, Easy mistake. I do it all the time :P
210. SFsuga Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:33 pm
Just for the record: I am in a SD/SB relationship with only one man and I really like him.
In the past this was not the case and I will never put myself in that situation again.
JQ: You can count on me being honest 100% of the time. I don’t sugar coat anything I say on this blog.
211. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:34 pm
Let me tell you a little story :) my first sd was a very nice, handsome and very sexy man. WE agreed on a $500 “gift” every time we met. Yes we did have sex after the 3rd date. But he gave me the money if we did or did not have sex. It was not a sex or no money thing. Would I consider that a fine line? yup!! But it worked for me and I enjoyed being with him. I would have had sex with him if there was no money evolved, so I guess that is how I justify it :)
212. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:35 pm
SFsuga that’s great. Live and learn :) that’s all we can do.
213. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:39 pm
I think that’s what kinda of blurs it Red :) You’re not doing it because of the money lol You would have done it regardless. People who outright prostitute tend to not care how you look, smell, or talk lol they’re just looking for the money. Like I said, depends on who’s holding the looking glass. One person sees hookers and another sees a mutually beneficial relationship in no way sullied by the connotations of prostitution :)
214. katrina Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:39 pm
My aunt used to tell me, ‘Never do for money what you would never do.’
215. SFsuga Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:41 pm
SweetRed, that is a perfect arrangement. And I am proud to say that I am in a similar one right now except he gives me more than $500.
The trolls I was with in the past gave me 5k or more a month. And because of that, I stayed with them. I had never had money like that before and I was being a total hooker.
JQ, I think that the SD’s had some idea that I wasn’t head over heals for them and they were ok with that.
I’m a former model and they were trolls. It doesn’t take a genius to figure out what’s going on. Usually when I see a mismatched couple like this I think she’s either with him for money or drugs.
216. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:41 pm
making my home made spaghetti sauce, so I am up and down, will catch up in a few.
217. SFsuga Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:43 pm
Katrina, If I lived by your aunts words then I would be below the poverty belt.
218. RedMaru*210789* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:44 pm
it all depends on point of view in a nutshell
Well I’m out sugars….
Got to dry my footsies and beat the next wave of rain they say is coming in and call my mom who’s worried about me….awww. So I will see all of you later
219. SFsuga Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:44 pm
Jai: How much is your SD giving you?
220. SFsuga Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:46 pm
I feel like I have to cut my expectations in half because of the economy. It totally sucks.
221. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:46 pm
I’m supposed to be napping right now, but the blog snared me :) I’m scared if I lay down, I wont want to type up my chemistry notes..but I went to sleep around midnight and got up at two so I probably need a nap lol The B-12 is not giving me a boost today.
222. katrina Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:48 pm
Spaghetti sounds soooo good right now. Save some for me, SweetRed?
I am out now, too. BBL : )
223. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:52 pm
katrina will do :) have a good one :)
224. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:52 pm
Bye Maru :)
SFSuga-My SD and I have an unconventional sugarship (that’s totally not a word lol) even by sugarship standards. I don’t have a set allowance, but am given whatever I ask for along with things I don’t have to..Does that make any sense? It’s weird, but it works for us. I’m terrible at negotiations and him, being the wonderful man he is, did not take advantage of that. Once we ‘decided’ to move forward lol he accommodated my my level of negotiation and took the lead. Ugh, that got wordy. Email me if that doesn’t make sense. I don’t want to bog the blog :)
225. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:54 pm
Red, we keep posting at the same time lol I’m going to start calling you Copycat :P
226. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:56 pm
SFsuga I have said this before :) I work and I make a good living on my own. I don’t need a SD I want a SD. I live comfortably. I just like to live above my means :) So I guess what I am trying to say is I can be picky. I can search and take my time to find what I am looking for.
But I do understand where you are coming from. It may not be something I would want to do, but I understand it :) I really do try not to judge others and if I do (no one is perfect) I try to do better the next time :)
227. johnq Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:56 pm
I wanted to respond to Clea’s post, but got sidetracked with this other controversy.
Clea: did you explicitly or implicitly ask for the gift? If so, then you should think about returning it, since the guy might feel cheated that you extracted money from him and then disappeared. On the other hand, if he offered the money without any request from you, then it’s a gift and I see no reason why you should give it back. You’re free to do so, of course, if you feel guilty about rejecting him. But I don’t see any obligation on your part.
Incidentally, I keep reading about women who expect “gifts” at the first meeting. As far as I’m concerned, that’s the equivalent of asking to be paid for a job interview. The point of the first meeting is so each party can figure out if there’s enough chemistry and mutual interest to proceed. If the woman is entitled to ask for compensation, then it should equally be true that the man should be able to ask for sex.
And I don’t buy the argument that the man should pay because he’s taking up the woman’s time. The man’s time is just as valuable as the woman’s.
On the other hand, by the second date there should be some fairly clear expectation about what’s going on. Letting things drag out without an explicit arrangement is, in my experience, a mistake.
JQ
228. SFsuga Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:57 pm
I like that word “sugarship”. Yeah that does make sense. He gives you what you need and you’re happy. That’s all that matters.
229. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:58 pm
LMAO@Jai go take a nap GF you not making sence lol
230. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 6:59 pm
SFSuga-Glad I didn’t say too much and say nothing at all :) You sound like you get fairly large allowances you lucky duck :)
231. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:00 pm
Ok maybe I need a nap then, SFsuga understood you lmao
232. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:03 pm
Lol! Red, you’re probably right. I want to power through, but blah.
I wish some of you sugars were close. I want to do a ‘out’ day tomorrow. My SD told me to submit my proposal in writing lol so I’m going to do it even though he was joking. By out day, I mean a nice brunch, some site seeing, maybe a hike, a nice lunch lol, more site seeing, a nice drive, the end with a fantastic dinner.
233. SFsuga Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:05 pm
I am having an ‘in’ day because it is so cold and cloudy outside. I should really try to get out though.
234. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:06 pm
Me and SFSuga are currently riding the same wave length lol it explains why she dug the word ’sugarship’ :D
so there Red :P lol
235. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:08 pm
It’s been raining in AZ, but it’s nice today. So if this keeps up, I want to go go go tomorrow. But go and be outdoors lol not indoors..I can stay here for that :)
236. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:09 pm
hehe. I am trying to cook and keep up on the blog lol
I want an “out” day too :( darn it Jai move to Florida lol
237. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:10 pm
Lol move to AZ Red :)
238. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:10 pm
Been raining all week here in Florida. My hair is a mess of curls and doing it’s own thing!
239. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:11 pm
Now if you said TN I would be there! lol
240. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:11 pm
Never been to AZ.
241. SFsuga Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:13 pm
Well, I’m going to put on my fishnet stockings and walk to the nearest corner to make a buck for my ‘out’ day :-) Peace ladies and gents!
242. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:13 pm
If I moved to AZ I would know where to go for dinner :)
243. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:13 pm
Ok, I’m really going to go this time. I have to work on that fake proposal before it’s too late lol :D Hopefully I’ll be conscious enough to check back in later. I feel like passing out on this keyboard right now as I ty bembjbobeiobeivpwr…sorry, I passed out with my face on the key board :P See? I’m starting to be corny, I’m definitely tired and definitely have to go lol
244. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:13 pm
SFsuga lmao to funny. Have a good night :)
245. Jai Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:14 pm
Lol SFSuga. Peace :)
TN? Who wants to live there? lol AZ is where it’s at…sort of…ok, not really :P
246. Jessica Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:14 pm
johnq: i agree with your view on gifts on the first date, but I must admit it is a very nice gesture to bring something i.e flowers or just a small gift, nothing expensive
247. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:14 pm
see you later Jai, get a nap!
248. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:16 pm
I lived in TN for 2 yrs when my husband was in the military, I loved it there. And before anyone jumps on the husband part lol he is still that, we are separated
249. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:20 pm
Tell me why the men I have written to come join us on the blog, look at my profile? I am not writing to them for myself lol.
250. Clea Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:22 pm
John-
I definitely did not ask for the gift. Nor would I ever even hint at expecting a gift. I consider that distasteful. Matter of fact when he mentioned it I discouraged it. I was perfectly happy to just have dinner with him and get to know him. I never expect a gift on the first date and usually just want to have coffee but I let him take me out to dinner. Even when I go to dinner I am an inexpensive date and don’t drink and dinner for me usually means a $20 date. I absolutely hate women who are dinner whores and I usually offer to pay half except in the case of a SD where it would be ridiculous.
When he gave me the gift it was a gift certificate for ($150). I am not sure if I gave the impression it was more like $500. I would imagine to someone with millions $150 is not that big a deal. So I went on the date not knowing who he was or if he was my type and was misled about his age but that’s fine. A lot of men do it and I almost expect it these days.
We had a wonderful time at dinner, I think he enjoyed my company and I enjoyed his. There just was no chemistry on my part and I can’t be physical with someone I am not attracted to. I am not that good an actress. That said, I would hang out with him any time if he wanted a companion but as this discussion has addressed, it’s most likely not what he is looking for. I don’t want to mislead him and go out again with him thinking this might go down that path.
251. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:25 pm
SFSuga
Money is always good no matter what you have to do to get it. You can work your butt off at a job and still struggle (I do). What you do to survive is your own business and anyone who passes judgement, well they should have came and paid your rent for you. Let’s be realistic, how many 60 year old men out there can really connect with a woman in here 20’s? They would be more compatible with a woman their age but they are looking for something exciting just as the younger woman is looking for something excitiing. Having a much older sd is one thing and being married to one is another. This site is not about serious relationships, it’s about temporary fun and financial benefit for women (well except for those who are looking for the love or their lives or the eastern european women who are looking to move to the US). Money is important and it has to be discussed before hand. I personally would rather be mistaken for bieng in a sex for money situation than be in a situation where I gave the guy what he needed and got nothing in return. The worst thing I would want to be called is “used for free” sex is sex and it doesnt’ matter whether someone pays for it or is a hoe and sleeps with everyone for nothing.
252. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:33 pm
SFSuga I have a whole drawer full of fishnets and hosiery, help yourself :)
Don’t let anyone put you down. Most of us women on here are open to having a sugar relationship with a married man so it’s no worse, being the other woman whether it’s an affair or sugar is really wrong and a sin, so why is everyone so critical, none of us are angels on here.
:)
253. SFsuga Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:35 pm
Lisa: Amen sister! And don’t think men won’t give you the whole Madonna/ Whore complex just to get what they want for free. I was a mega-slut during my freshman year of college. I once slept with three different guys in one weekend! Now, I only sleep with one man and he pays me for it. Which is worse? Maybe there both bad. Either way, I am a total slut. Men are never sluts, they’re players.
Clea: Girl, $150 is nothing! Go spend that giftcard and enjoy yourself. Sometimes it takes a gift like that to get you to do something nice for yourself for a change.
254. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:37 pm
Yiks!! no one is saying there is not money or sex involved. We all know that goes hand in hand. What we were discussing is having sex JUST for the money. That is something I will not do. If you are some one who does I think there is a very fine line that is being crossed there. But as I said that is my opinion. And you have yours and nope NOT gonna judge :)
I think we just went backwards there lol.
Anyway HI LISA!!! how was your day?
255. Clea Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:40 pm
Thank you Lisa for pointing that out. It’s a little more complicated than that but what you say is true. For my entire life I would not be with a married man and am only considering it now because of my situation. I don’t feel good about it, but I understand why men (and women) have extramarital affairs.
256. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:41 pm
I have slept with 5 men my entire life lmao and I am 40!!! and was married for 20 yrs.
257. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:43 pm
I am losing my good girl image on this site lmao. My friends would never believe me lmao
258. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:44 pm
But you know what they say about redhead :) All fire lol
259. SFsuga Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:45 pm
About the married man situation: I think an emotional affair is far worse than a physical affair. A man may still love his wife and kids, but just want to get his rocks off with another woman. When it turns into a lifetime channel movie is when the man falls in love with the other woman and leaves his wife with no money and three kids.
That’s fucked up. And I would never allow my SD to do that to someone else. In a way I feel like I’m helping the marriage because it gives them one less thing to fight about.
260. johnq Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:47 pm
Clea,
The certificate was a gift, freely given. You’re under no obligation to return it. Beyond that, I think you’re handling this right.
As a matter of curiosity, what store was the gift certificate for?
JQ
261. SFsuga Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:48 pm
Red, That’s incredible. Five guys your whole life? I guess that makes sense since you were married for half of it. It’s fun being a slut, but you have to always use protection or else you’re just a stupid slut. And of course you have to lie to your girlfriends about your sex life or else they won’t like you anymore.
262. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:49 pm
I’ve had 7 men and one woman(threesome long time ago) and I was only married one of them so it’s no different. My longest relationship is the one I have now with the married man of 4 years. I was raised to believe sex outside of marriage was wrong and my family would look down on any relationship I had so I keep them discreet so to me it;s no worse to have a sugar relationship than it is to have an affair for free. I’m a businesswoman to some extent, and have taken a break from giving my heart and body to men whom I desire a committed relationship with only to have my heart broken and dumped and have nothing but a broken heart to show. In sugardating at least I can look at what my financial gifts have bought me.
Oops there goes my saintly image too Sweetredhead, lol
Actually although my family disaproves of my affair, they actually like the guy i’m seeing now because they realize I could and have done alot worse, as at least my guy has a master’s degree and is a sucessful businessman, not some scum like I married.
263. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:50 pm
SFsuga that is somewhat what I have said before about a married man. I am actually helping them stay together by filling his need with out him sleeping with many woman. Safe, clean and satisfied lol
264. SFsuga Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:51 pm
Oh and when a man asks you how many guys you’ve been with, tell them 5 no matter what the truth is. And never ever tell a white guy you’ve been with a big black man. That will make him insecure.
265. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:52 pm
Beware of the girl with the long red hair
A man is safer in the electric chair lol I heard this on an old radio program tape I have from the 40’s :)
266. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:52 pm
I can’t say that, I married a great guy, not a lot of money but a great guy and excellent father. We have just grown in different directions.
267. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:54 pm
Well I have short red hair lol. Was long forever!! Needed a change and I love it :) I DO NOT have a hot temper lol. I am easy going. Not your typical red head. except in the bedroom, but we won’t go into that!!
268. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:56 pm
Sweetredhead I had a good visit with my family but am glad to be alone again. We played bingo, watched a movie, ate, etc. I will spend monday with them too and we will take a walk to the store. This week is giving me some opportunity to spend some time with them since my daughter and I are never off on the same days from work. Hoping to squeeze in a sugar meeting this week too. Might see my sd and have a couple potentials too. Will have to be dinner meets though since my days off are already taken, but 6 is not too late to meet.
269. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:57 pm
lmao SFsuga I was really only with 5. But they were very experienced and taught me so much. I actually thank them :)
270. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:58 pm
I am having a BBQ/pool party at my house on monday with family and friends. But the rest of the weekend is still up for negotiation lol
271. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 7:59 pm
lol I just thought with funny hearing that from a long time ago. lol
272. raine Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 8:03 pm
*snickering at “dinner whores”* self-explanatory,I know, Clea, but please enlighten me when you get the chance. *snort* :D
Sorry, being silly right now. I’ll figure out something a little more substantive* to write shortly.
*I’ve always wanted to use this word; am I using same in the proper context?
273. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 8:05 pm
I think it is substantial lol.
274. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 8:15 pm
I made a awesome sauce!! if I do say so myself lol.
I can bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan and never, never let you forget your a man, cause I am a woman!! lmao
275. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 8:18 pm
I’m going to hop in the bath now
Be back later :)
276. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 8:26 pm
Lisa I have also done a 3some but it was with 2 men and me :) Lucky me!
277. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 8:30 pm
I am also going to go shower, bbl
278. raine Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 8:30 pm
Maybe you’re right, sweetredhead: I don’t know why I didn’t type just plain ole “of substance”. I’ll be glad when I find both of my blasted dictionaries!lol
279. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 8:30 pm
this was waaay back when I was involved with a pretty kinky guy. It only happened once and will not happen again. Only interested in one on one now.
280. Panther SD Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 8:39 pm
Back for a hot second… wow did know a lot of people got on over the weekend. What have I been missing? :)
281. Clea Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 9:01 pm
Reine:
I have friends who go on blind dates with men once or twice a week for the free dinners. Guys they have no intention of ever seeing again. and they order the most expensive thing on the menu. They are silly IMO and trust me, they don’t need the free dinners~ if they skipped a few meals it would not hurt them
JohnQ- it was for Williams Sonoma because he knew I love kitchenware and needed a few things. Why do you ask? Are you worried I was one of your SB dates LOL.
Sweetredhead- 5 is a good number, mine is in the double digits but I won’t say which double digit ;)
282. Panther SD Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 9:03 pm
Clea -
Hello! In regards to what you said I have heard of women who go on dates for the free meals. Sad….. it catches up with them in the long run.
283. Clea Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 9:06 pm
Hi Panther-
Yes, it catches up with their waistlines LOL
284. Gail Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 9:13 pm
Lisa and kinky? unbelieveable…Sweetred,Yes…Lisa, No….
Hello everyone!!! Just stopped in for a minute. Getting ready to go to the Jazz Festival tonite : )
I see everyone is still here : ) Have a wonderful holiday!!!!
285. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 9:16 pm
Hi Gail, long time no see, How are you tonight?
286. Gail Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 9:23 pm
Hi Lisa : ) I am doing great. I have been really busy with work, but finally getting out tonite. I am excited about your date with your SD…I knew he would miss you. How could he not….you are a wonderful, kind and special SB : ) I know…..
287. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 9:26 pm
Back from my shower, all squeaky clean and shaved smooth as a babies bottom lmao. ok maybe I just should have said back lol
288. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 9:26 pm
Yes he said he wanted to see me again. I just hope he doesn’t cancel on me as he’s done that 3 times. I have 2 potentials to juggle and possibly meet too and not alot of time as 2 of my days off this week will be busy with family.
289. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 9:27 pm
have fun at the jazz concert Gail.
290. johnq Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 9:30 pm
Clea,
Nope. Not me. You sound like a lovely person, but I’m pretty sure we haven’t met.
I was just wondering what kind of message he was trying to send with the certificate, but it sounds as if he was just being thoughtful.
JQ
291. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 9:32 pm
I think he was just trying to be thoughtful also, he sounds like a very nice man. Too bad you didn’t feel a connection with him.
292. Gail Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 9:32 pm
Hello Raine : ) Long time since we have been on here together. You don’t need a dictionary, you spell perfectly. All people need to do nowadays is use spellcheck. Sometimes I read some of the post here and chuckle.
Clea and Pather- I always look forward to a great meal. It’s wonderful to go to restaurant that I normally could not afford. I too agree, it’s not nice for a SB to use a SD for just that.
293. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 9:35 pm
bbl have to spend time with the boys. It’s game night :)
294. Gail Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 9:37 pm
Thanks SRed…I plan on it : ) Its always fun to be out with great food and music…plus the weather is warm with a nice cool breeze.
Clea-I agree with JQ….that was real thoughtful of your date. Now you really got to get to cooking : )
In regards to the topic….I love both….SEX and MONEY : ) plus…I am great with both….LOL…..Everyone have a great evening.
295. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 9:43 pm
Have fun Gail! Nice to catch you on the blog as we seem to always miss each other, lol
296. Clea Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 9:46 pm
John-
Thank you!
Yes, he is a very thoughtful guy, I like him very much. Just don’t want to sleep with him.
297. Jessica Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 9:46 pm
Just gotta say hpw happy I am, I’ve spoken to 4 sds and they’re all so nice, I honestly hought there would be more bad seeds here
*happydance*
298. gurlnextdoor*274735* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:16 pm
Hello all, tonight was another success. I just got back from my 2nd date with my potential SD and it was awesome. He took me to this nice restaurant in town that I had never been to. It was very intimate with this guy there playing soothing jazz on his sax. I had shrimp and grits, one of my favourite southern dishes, while he had salmon with steak and asparagus on the side. After dinner, we went to his house and watched some tv. He tried to slyly get me to have sex but when I told him no, he just backed off and we cuddled and kissed some while watching TV and talking. He said he wants to have a one week run before committing to a long term arrangement which is fine by me. But in the meantime he won’t be getting the goods if I’m not getting an allowance, but I think he’s ok with that. One must give sugar to receive some sugar of their own. ;)
299. katrina Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:29 pm
Hello, Everyone!
GurlNextDoor - how nice! YAY he sounds like he is interested but cautious. Nothing untrustworthy about that.
Clea - WilliamsSonoma is a thoughtful gift - now I think maybe he meant for you to keep it regardless. Whereas if he had gifted you with a gift certificate for Victoria’s Secret, I would return that.
300. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:30 pm
Glad your date went well gurlnextdoor and no do not give him his “allowance” until he shows you some “financial spoiling” Some guys might say they need a “test drive” but your aren’t a car, no on “tests’ a toothbrush or any other personal item before financially aquiring access to it. That sounds weird I know , lol
301. katrina Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:38 pm
lisa - you always make me smile. : ) I am glad that you had a nice day with your family? Did you cook - I notice you like take-out. I live alone and eat a lot of take-out, too.
302. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:44 pm
I don’t really know how to cook and actually have no cookware. I don’t even have dishes as it’s impossible to drag that stuff home on foot or on the bus, it’s too heavy, lol
I bought some of the banquet chicken and put it in the oven and we had chips and dip. Played bingo with parents (not for money as they don’t gamble) and spent time with my daughter. Going to see them again on Monday. We rarely can spend a day together because my daughter works during the week and is off on the weekend whereas I rarely have a sat or sun off. I usually work holidays when she is off too.
303. katrina Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 10:57 pm
I would love to have no cookware! I would have more room for my books and keep them in my cabinets. : )
304. gurlnextdoor*274735* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:03 pm
Lol yes lisa I know. SA is not a car lot where guys can test drive cars (SBs) until they find something they like. But, he is really nice and he did ask me about my summer plans for any vacations before hinting around to the fact that he wants to take some weekend trips this summer, so that’s a good sign.
Katrina, I understand he’s being cautious about things which I actually like. He wants to make sure that things are good with me before committing to an arrangement, nothing wrong with that. But I must say, it would be nice to see that allowance sometime by the end of this week lol.
305. gurlnextdoor*274735* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:06 pm
Lisa sounds like a good day in my book. Spending time with family and eating a good chicken, sounds pretty good to me. :)
Everyone I need your opinion on something though. If a SD wants to test drive an arrangement before really committing (ex. giving you an allowance) how do you nicely tell him that there will be no sex till you get some green, without sounding like a gold digger? I mean I’d love to have sex with him at some point, preferably sooner than later, but at the same time I don’t want to be taken advantage of. Any suggestions?
306. SFsuga Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:12 pm
GND: Tell him you don’t want to be taken advantage of and you wouldn’t feel right about being intimate with him without getting an allowance first.
307. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:14 pm
Well this is an arrangement site and any guy who doesn’t understand the financial part is on the wrong site. Just bring it up to him since he has already tried to be intimate with you. And trips are nice, but if you’re like me, you really need the money more.
Just tell him you need to try things out with him too, see that he is serious as it is only fair if you give to him that he gives to you and don’t let he try to convince you that the sex is mutual as men do that do get away without paying. A woman doesn’t have to join a site to get sex, this site is about more. If he wants to wait on the allowance then make him wait on the intimate part, plan all dates to take place in public only and concentrate on really getting to know him through talking, if that’s what he really wants to do, if he’s just after sex,then he will lose interest.
308. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:18 pm
ok this potential that i’m emailing just emailed me about meeting for lunch friday. this may be an issue since my sd might want to see me then. The sd has cancelled our last 3 dates and broke off with me this past tuesday because of distance although he still prefers me. He emailed me today said he’d like to see me again on one of my days off which this week the only day I have free to meet is friday. I have tuesday and thurs evenings and offered them to both sd and potential and they both picked friday. I could meet the potential for lunch and the sd later in the afternoon (keep in mind I made a plan to meet the potential for lunch before my sd reinstated his interest in me. I want to keep hold of my sd because I know he is for real and knows what is involved and I dont’ want to miss a date with him just to meet a potential that may or may not work out.
309. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:19 pm
I just don’t want to cancel with the potential to see the sd and then have the sd cancel again and then end up with no date and vise versa, I don’t want to cancel the sd to meet a new guy who might not mount to much
310. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:20 pm
They all seem to come at once and there is no time to meet everyone this week and then next thing you know you have no prospects.
311. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:21 pm
Of course I have to bring up the fact that he has to drive to meet me for lunch as I have no car and cannot drive to his town. He said we could pick a place later in the week. I’ve already picked the only place that will work for me.
312. katrina Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:23 pm
lol Lisa when it rains, it pours. What a nice problem to have : )
313. katrina Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:24 pm
Lisa - Seriously I think that I would maybe make the pot SD the priority since the other SD has already proven unreliable. Still - a nice problem : )
314. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:25 pm
not really Katrina becaue I usually end up with nothing when I have them all come in at once. I only have tues eve, thurs eve, and friday and no one can meet for dinner on tues or thur, both want friday and It will be hard to juggle them without the other knowing.
I don’t want to give up the chance to get the sd back but I don’t want to cancel meeting the potential to see the sd when he might cancel at the last minute like he has done the last 3 times. He is legit though and paid me an entire month’s allowance on our second date.
315. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:27 pm
I would like to meet the potential sd for lunch and then see my sd (who would be coming over to my apt anyway) in the late afternoon. But he does’t like to drive in the evening so he might want to meet earlier. The potential wants to meet and get to know me first before providing spoiling so I’m a little reluctant that I might end up wasting my time with him.
316. katrina Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:34 pm
Lisa you take such a practical approach and break it all down so logically. I am hoping that this will be a win-win situation for you! : )
Good night, All.
317. gurlnextdoor*274735* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:38 pm
I’m with katrina on this one, lisa. I’d meet with the potential SD most definitely since the other one seems to only want to meet with you when it’s convenient for him to do so. He’s already proven that you’re not too high on his priority list by standing you up not once, but THREE times! Not to mention he seems to be kind of wishy washy on what he wants (one minute he says no, next minute he says maybe). So yeah I’d definitely go with the potential SD first.
318. lisa Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:39 pm
Good night I’ve got to get to bed, gotta get up early tomorrow to work.
319. gurlnextdoor*274735* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:41 pm
Night katrina. :)
SFSuga I think that’s what I’m going to tell him, and I’ll try to be as nice about it as possible lol. I just don’t want to come off sounding demanding (which I haven’t been yet). I mean he’s a nice guy and we really are looking for the same things in an arrangement, so it’d be a shame for me to lose him because I came off sounding like a high maintenance brat. So thanks. :)
320. gurlnextdoor*274735* Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:42 pm
Night lisa, I’m gonna hit the sack too now I think. I have work again after 3 months of being happily jobless and I have to mentally prepare myself for the horrors of retail tomorrow morning.
321. Ambiguities Says:
May 23rd, 2009 at 11:44 pm
Good evening everbody!
322. Ababy80 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:03 am
not to beat the dead horse bbuuuuuttt…
“sweetredhead*269443* Says:
SFsuga that is somewhat what I have said before about a married man. I am actually helping them stay together by filling his need with out him sleeping with many woman. Safe, clean and satisfied lol”
I was with a married man once and I told him before we got involved that it would do one of two things for his marriage - make them grow stronger, or tear them apart. No matter what it would make him truely gauge his life from another persons eyes and AHAH!! maybe his wife ISNT so bad
323. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:40 am
OMG you will never believe the email I got from this pompous ass! and I very nicely told him so too.
324. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:46 am
Thanks Ababy80 Funny to see myself repeated. Yiks!! But that is so true.
325. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:50 am
Ok remember I told you I emailed some men to come introduce themselves on the blog. I did it NOT to bring attention to myself but to get some SD’s here to join us. So this one guy sends me this back
what gave you the impression I needed or wanted help or that i’m on a sugar search? Or did you include random presumptions in a generic notice intended to steer people to a page where they would likely notice you?
and here is my reply lol :)
Well lets see you are on a sugar daddy site, you would think that would give me a small clue.
I do not need to get attention. I tend to stay in the background. I have had to much attention from men all my life, thank you very much.
As for choosing to write to you obviously that was a mistake because one thing we do not need on the blog is a pompous ass.
Enjoy your evening :)
326. bob Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:45 am
sweetred do not talk about us please
327. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:49 am
Lmao Bob your a nut :) a lovable nut but a nut :)
328. bob Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:56 am
well I am drunk an I commiteeted to sponsering a baja 500 team tonight
329. bob Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:01 am
sweetredhead are you there
330. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:03 am
Sorry yes I am here
331. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:04 am
What is a baja 500 team ?
332. bob Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:07 am
something as kids we talled about….about 3000K stock. from cali. to mex. but as men we need to do this. as I was told tonight.
333. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:08 am
Sorry was picking up the house. My parents are stopping by in the morning dropping of their dog. I am babysitting while they go to naples for my cousins sons wedding
334. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:08 am
And you were drunk enough to fall for it lmao
335. bob Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:11 am
and red when i do this you have to go. I will have my kids there which are younger then yours and you will have your boys there. it is the biggest guy thing ther is
336. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:11 am
Not sure you should admit to sb’s that when your drunk you give away money lmao
337. bob Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:11 am
yes i am drunk enough for it
338. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:12 am
bob are you trying to get me into trouble with you lol
339. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:13 am
What exactly will you be doing?
340. bob Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:13 am
my profile says i work at wal-mart and live with my parents
341. bob Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:14 am
putting togather a racing team. its a guy thing
342. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:14 am
oh yes I remember and your short fat and bald :)
343. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:15 am
Oh sure and you want me to go to watch your kids lol
344. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:15 am
You just put a new spin on sugar dating lmao
345. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:18 am
Bob did you pass out?
346. bob Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:19 am
all the kids. we are just parents in the big picture
347. bob Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:22 am
we need to plan a SB/SD trip. A real one. No Bullshit.
348. bob Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:23 am
You have mail
349. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 7:35 am
Good morning everyone
Getting ready to leave for work so I can sit in the breakroom for 45 minutes. Damn sunday bus service sucks.
Good luck on work gurlnextdoor as retail does suck, mine not as much as previous jobs but still.
Have a good day everyone, looking forward to quitting time already.
350. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 7:39 am
Gotta love those emails Sweetredhead
some of my favorites taken from sugardaddy profiles:
“If you’re looking for a sugardaddy, i’m not the one”
“If you’re looking for someone to give you money, look somewhere else”
“no money will ever exchange hands”
“I can’t give money directly but will pay a couple bills for you online”
“I’m looking for my soulmate”
351. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:26 am
Good morning! anybody up yet?
352. Jessica Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:41 am
Lisa, yeah i can’t see why they even post on this site. And what’s up with those (2 out of 5) who in their second e-mail asks me if I’d do anal? Gahhh!
353. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:44 am
hi jessica :) how are you today?
354. Jessica Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:52 am
GG: just fine, little tired from last nights caffeine frenzy (seriously, i didn’t know coffee could give so much energy), reorganized my entire wardrobe, haha.
Any luck with sds?
355. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:53 am
Good morning goodgirl and Jessica! How are you two?
It’s a GORGEOUS morning in Minneapolis…. 60 and sunny! :)
356. johnq Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:55 am
They apparently did some work on the site last night, but screwed it up. Last login times now show up in PDT rather than EDT, which is nice (I’m in California), but the Most Recently Logged In filter on Advanced Search no longer works correctly. Instead, it appears to be doing the same thing as the Newest Profile filter.
I’m wondering if anyone else has noticed any other changes, and if they’ve introduced other bugs.
JQ
357. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:58 am
Hi JohnQ
No, I haven’t used any of the search parameters this morning, so haven’t noticed….
always a “work in progress”… on here…
358. Stormcat Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:00 am
Good Morning Y’all,
Things are shaping up for this to be an awsome weekend. Yesterday was a grueling kayak run on a newly opened section of the river. My buddy and I ended up doing three rescues, kayakers who shouldn’t have been on that water. Then one member of our party dumped on a tough rapid and lost her paddle. So I gave her mine and John and I split his into two and went down the rest of the trip (about 5 Miles) with a half paddle each. What a trip! Much harder to maneuver with one blade. Quick moves are not possible, less leverage on the strokes, no indicators for blade orientation. By the time we got down, though, we had the hang of it. A good lesson, really changed the way I think about the boat and the current. Weather’s supposed to be good again this afternoon and tomorrow, so we’ll try for two more runs. I’m psyched as that means it’ll be a 3 run weekend! Then 2 sugar dates and hopefully a cool bonus that, I’ll get to meet beachgirl.
Life is good!
359. Ambiguities Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:01 am
Coffee anyone? *pours a big cup*
Good morin’
360. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:03 am
Hi Stormcat ~ wow! Sounds exciting… !
Yes, Ambiguities… I have some as well!
361. Jessica Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:03 am
stormcat - are you setting up a sugarblog meeting? way to go!
362. Stormcat Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:11 am
Hey Ambiguities, VillaCypris, Jessica
Jessica - not really a blogmeet as it’s only beachgirl and I but it would be really great if others want to join us. Montreal, wed or thurs.
Ambiguities - interesting name. Ambiguity is usually something to be avoided. Is there an embedded message there?
363. Ambiguities Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:17 am
Villa: *coffee cheers to yah!* - giggles
Stormcat: Embedded message- oddly enough I HATE ambiguity- and usually use the name Ambiguities Kiss. Last year it seemed I was getting more of it than I wished to expereince. Nothin’ gets by you does it! :)
364. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:21 am
Thanks Ambiguities! Cheers!
I, on the other hand, prefer “ambiguity”…. the proverbial “grey area” in which things are fluid, malleable, adaptable, flexible… perhaps it is personality dependent and reflects one’s needs with regards to freedom or stability, safety or risk… etc.
365. Jessica Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:24 am
sounds really nice with a little blog getogether
anyone got exciting plans for tonight? i’m just gonna tortue my family with my extra-hot garlic dressing, very interesting life huh
366. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:27 am
Stormcat - why do you say ambiguity is generally something to be avoided? It’s widely used in philosophy, linguistics, physics, art, music, mathematics…. ?
367. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:29 am
See…. case in point…. Jessica is going to “torture” her family with garlic dressing….. that’s an example of “lexical ambiguity”…. it has more than one meaning in the English language…. and it’s UNambiguous meaning must be determined in context…
Hmmmm… thanks for bringing that up! Haven’t thought about this since college… :)
368. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:38 am
I guess I’ll go back to being a dumb blonde so as to not shut down the blog.
Sounds fun, Jessica! Always good to spend time with family.
369. Silly Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:41 am
Ok, so really new to this.. not even sure if I’m posting in the right area !
first off, GREAT blog !! I’m learning sooo much !
so sexless sugar ? I think it’s very difficult to be cut and dry and say ON your profile that NO sex will be involved. You’re kinda restricting yourself !! what if you meet a great guy and you want to jump him ? you’d look kind of silly ! lol
370. Jessica Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:53 am
mah, missed an “r”, blaming my keyboard that has been acting very strange lately
371. Silly Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:00 am
good morning ! so any advice for new SB’s ?
I haven’t had any luck yet and wondering if maybe I need to change my profile or budget amt that i’m looking for etc..
372. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:01 am
ah ha! i see how you all are ;) …waking up at once!
i wanna go to the sugarblog meet!!! ..send me a ticket, i’ll be right there. lol
ambiguities and silly~welcome to the blog!!
jessica and villa~doing well, thank you! :)
got my coffee~~~ and baileys!
373. Jai Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:04 am
Good morning all! :)
374. Jai Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:05 am
I keep getting a page saying I am posting too fast. I had to change my email address to post something.
Hey gg! How are you? :)
375. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:09 am
Hi Jai!
I was getting that, too, at first. But no longer…
376. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:09 am
hi jai! i got the same message and lost what i had written… :(
thanks for the tip about addy…
silly~ there’s almost always really great advice here. you’ve come to the right place! whats your profile #? i’ll look over it for ya if you’d like. …above all safety 1st. make sure you know exactly what you want from a relationship like this and stick to it. being an sb is super fun!
377. Silly Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:17 am
Hey Goodgrl.. thanks ! profile 330786
378. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:22 am
Good Morning everyone. Uggg give me COFFEE too please!!
Welcome Silly :)
379. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:24 am
I see another married Sb discussion coming on lmao
380. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:24 am
Hola sweetred!
381. Jai Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:25 am
At his request, I submitted an essay AND proposal to my SD about why a day trip would be nice today…he still wont go lol Waste of ink and paper. Looks like I’ll be hitting it solo. :P I need more friends lol
Off to shower :)
382. Silly Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:28 am
thanks SweetRed.. so can I ask if you came on the site while still married and then left ? that’s what i’m looking to do.. been married 16 yrs
383. Pink Daisy Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:30 am
hi sugars! :) new to the world of sugar. Wondered if anyone had any sugar advice and profile advice! x
384. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:33 am
No I was separated before I came here. I think Sd will not look you up because of your statement about married and wanting to leave, they will think you are looking for a replacement. Personally I would leave that part out of your profile.
385. Silly Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:33 am
Hi Pink.. also new here hoping to get some great advice !
386. Silly Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:34 am
should I include that I am married ? just don’t have the leaving part in there..
387. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:35 am
Welcome Pink and Silly
The best advice I can give you is to go back and start reading the old blogs…. anything you can possibly think of has already been addressed/discussed in previous threads. There is a lot of valuable information contained therein!
x
388. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:35 am
Pink Daisy Welcome :) post your profile number and we will be happy to give you some sugar advice :) Ask anything, we are very open here.
My advice to a new sugar is to know what you want. Stick to your standards, never settle. Talk to a potential sd and find out what they too are looking for.
389. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:36 am
Silly — yes, I would include that you are married…. that is a “material fact” which should be disclosed up front… in my opinion.
390. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:36 am
Silly leave the married part in there yes. Better to be open and honest.
391. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:38 am
VillaCypris is right there is a lot of great information on old blogs. If you have the time it will be a great benefit to look those over.
392. Pink Daisy Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:39 am
336652 my photos are yet to be approved! how long do you think it will take? I have a message already and cant read it yet! :( x
393. Silly Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:40 am
perfect, thanks ! changed it
394. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:43 am
Pink Daisy I would tone down the animal lover part, you will get some really bad emails on that. and I would tone down the dance like an idiot lol. The rest is great :)
395. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:45 am
Pink Daisy usually within 24 hours it get’s approved.
396. raine Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:49 am
Mornin’, sugar fans (and a hearty welcome to the newbies).
Silly, if I may address this:
~I think it’s very difficult to be cut and dry and say ON your profile that NO sex will be involved. You’re kinda restricting yourself !! what if you meet a great guy and you want to jump him ? you’d look kind of silly ! lol~
The choice may be restricting, but it’s not impossible or difficult. You have a point about the temptation to jump a guy down the line (again, not impossible), but I myself (and perhaps many others) can shut that down in nanoseconds with my superhuman self-control.
397. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:49 am
Great!! the tranny just went out on my car. I can’t afford to fix that and can’t afford a new care ughhhh Just when things where going so well for me.
398. johnq Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:51 am
Silly:
Profile comments: your picture is completely washed out. Maybe you’re doing that on purpose to hide your identity, but it looks kind of ugly. There are better ways to include a picture but still be discreet. And if you’re actually trying to show what you look like, it isn’t working. I’d get one or more new pictures.
The amount is relatively high. I don’t know what the market is like in Canada, but my suspicion is you’re going to lose a large percentage of potentials right there. If that’s what you need to get by, OK, but it’s a lot of money and I suspect you’re going to have trouble with it.
The married thing has been discussed above, but I think it’s more problematic in your case than most. The married SB profiles I’ve seen appear to be looking for a discreet affair plus some spending money. That’s not something I’d be that interested in, but it makes sense and I’m sure there are SDs who would actually prefer that type of situation, since the SB has a strong incentive to be discreet.
Your profile is more difficult to figure out, since you criticize your marriage and you’re asking for enough money to live on. The impression is that you’re looking for a way out of your marriage, and you’d like an SD to subsidize that.
In my opinion, an SD would be insane to even consider that type of situation, since there’s a high probability of extreme drama, including divorce proceedings, the SD’s identity coming out, the husband’s lawyer contacting the SD’s wife, etc.
I think you should be honest about the fact that you’re married, but drop any reference to how much you hate the marriage, and rework your profile so it looks like you’re looking for a discreet affair. Then, if and when you leave your husband, change your status to “separated,” and no one will think twice about it.
JQ
399. Pink Daisy Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:52 am
thank you for the advice sweetred! I just read it back and totally understand your point! I was worried the animal part and the part about loving pink because I didn’t want to come across as some dumb barbie.. because I’m really not! Im just a sucker for pretty much anything and everything pink, why? I have no idea! has anyone got any interesting sugar tales to tell!? or stories about first time sugar? x
400. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:54 am
I totally agree with johnq. You can always count on him to look at EVERYTHING and give good advice :) Sometimes very bluntly which is not always a bad thing.
401. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:58 am
I was very lucky to meet a great SD my first time out. But I screen. I did meet a few before him that were only out for sex or a relationship as a girlfriend, which I am not looking for. You learn from your mistakes. That is what is great about this blog. You can learn from others mistakes before you make your own. I met the other men before I found the blog.
402. johnq Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:59 am
VillaCypris:
I love semantics in the morning. Very sexy.
JQ
403. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:01 pm
The loving pink does make you sound VERY young lol and a little ditsy :)
404. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:03 pm
Thanks, JohnQ. I knew I liked you.
405. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:08 pm
Bob kept me up till 3:30 this morning and the bugger is probably still sleeping! Getting a BIG water bucket and dumping it on him!! Remember to talk real loud when he gets here, he will probably have a hang over lmao
406. Pink Daisy - 336652 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:08 pm
Ha thats what I was worried about - though I must admit I am slightly ditsy! Have made a few changes.. what do you think? x
407. Gail Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:09 pm
Good Morning Sugars : ) It’s a beautiful day in Northern Cali : ) The sun is shining and a nice cool breeze…perfect for the Jazz Festival this weekend.
Weclome new sugars : ) Putting together a profile is not easy…just look at mine. I haven’t touched it in awhile. The more you tweak it each time can change the outcome. JohnQ’s feedback is honest and direct : ) There is nothing like a SD point of view to help a SB along. Personally, I appreciate honesty and directness. I find it quite refreshing versus someone not telling the truth.
Greetings Villa!!! You and I come here in spurts…lol….what have you been up to?
Oh SRed….what a bummer…I hate having to pay for car repairs. When a car keeps milking you regularly…it’s time to buy a new car. Now a days they come with wonderful warranties, that include oil changes, tow service forever. I love having not to worry whether I am go break down : )
408. raine Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:11 pm
Yes, johnq’s so blunt, in fact, I’m trying to book a photo shoot via camera phone!~lol[do I have enough makeup?]
409. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:12 pm
Hi Gail!!!!
It’s beautiful here as well… I’m eating some quinoa and deciding if I want to bike or rollerblade this afternoon… might take advantage of the fact the wind isn’t 40mph and go biking :)
410. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:15 pm
Much better Pink Daisy :)
411. Gail Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:16 pm
LOL…Villa…be careful whatever you decide to do. You are the most active SB I know. I will have some band-aids ready in case of any boo-boos… : )
Now tell me…. what is quinoa? I am starving right now…but going to save my appetite for a bbq this afternoon.
412. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:16 pm
ugh! something happened to my new computer and i got frozen! had to re-start, and blah, blah… i had some pretty insightful stuff to say, but by the time i got back, you guys had already covered it all… and soooo much more! lol
i had some coffee for you sweetred, but i got irritated and drank it :)
morning gail :)
JQ~ you’re so good… ;)
villa~ what the heck is quinoa?? …*google-ing*
413. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:17 pm
goodgirl, good thing I made my own pot lol
414. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:18 pm
Yiks “pot of coffee” sounded like I was making something else lmao
415. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:19 pm
*goosefoot~ totally new to me :) is it like cereal?
416. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:20 pm
i’m comin over sweetred ;)
my daughters out of town~ we’ll have a wacky sunday…send the kiddos away! lmao
417. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:21 pm
Pronounced KEEN-WA…. it’s an “ancient grain”… considered a ‘complete protein’…. and contains all nine essential amino acids. YUM!
Well, Gail…. don’t curse me ! haven’t fallen on my rollerblades since 1991, and NEVER on my bike… god forbid… although a few times coming down bluffs at 48mph I was REALLY scared… survived tho, to live another day! x
418. Gail Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:23 pm
Morning goodgirl,
I hate it when my lappie freezes up. She almost died a couple months back on her birthday. I was fortunate to get a good software program to clean her up. She is now 1 year and two months old. In the same month one of my phones drowned in the toliet, and the other one got lost…this happened different times while I was shopping at Macys…ohh…the world of technology.
419. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:23 pm
Pink Daisy —-
“I’m a happy-go-lucky, open minded girl - never the type to pre-judge people.”
To indulge the discussion of “semantics”….. if you never PRE-judge people does that mean that you judge them AFTER you get to know them?
I’m sure not, and most people won’t even catch the distinction, but maybe just say you are “non-judgmental”….
420. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:24 pm
I have my parents dog here, babysitting her. My dog is so jealous. My son was playing with my mom’s dog and mine gets right in between them and pushes my son away and climbs all over him, he keeps doing it. Its too funn
421. raine Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:25 pm
Hi Gail! Sorry I missed you last night. How was the jazz festival?
As far as tweaking one’s profile, I have to do mine *yet again*; unsure what the outcome will be then.
422. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:25 pm
goodgirl come on over, pick up Jai on your way and we will have a girls day out!!
423. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:27 pm
I should really over hale my profile also. But when I think about it, I don’t feel like doing it at that time lol.
424. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:27 pm
haha sweetred ;) i know all about babysitting moms dog! lol …actually, i have to do it again next week. for the WHOLE week!
gail~i got mine a month ago. ugh.
….that ‘posting too quickly’ thing is annoying.
425. Pink Daisy - 336652 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:28 pm
ahhh good point villacypris, thank you x
426. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:29 pm
be over after lunch! i have a sugarfree lunch date today :)
427. Gail Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:29 pm
Villa,
I am sorry…no intention to curse you…lol…just being prepared….okay I will have a hose ready just in case you fall in the mud again….(smile)
I just swallowed my 2 tablespoons of flax oil this morning. It does something for me…I always feel great now : ) plus my long black hair is always so shiny.
I decided to stop drinking coffee…it was staining my teeth. Just staying with water for now : )
Where is Lisa? Liiiiissssa……where are you?
428. johnq Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:32 pm
Gail: you wrote:
“Weclome new sugars : ) Putting together a profile is not easy…just look at mine.”
Great advice, and I’m sure your profile would serve as a useful template for SBs old and new, but without your profile number it’s going to be a little challenging for them to make use of your wisdom.
JQ
429. Gail Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:35 pm
Hello Raine : ) The Jazz Festival was wonderful. It was extremely crowded but we were able to find a table where we just crowded in, had some great drinks and listen to the tunes. Lots of people everywhere. It was nice to just have some fun after working so much this month.
Goodgirl…how exciting to have a new computer : ) You get to travel the world and meet so many people now. My life really changed after I got mine. I use to have a dull boring life.
430. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:35 pm
Lisa is at work, I seen her say that this morning up there somewhere.
Speaking of Lisa, Bob wants to take her out to a nice restaurant and buy percery a cage. WE have to try and get her to accept :)
431. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:36 pm
Hahaha Gail… good memory! None of that today…. all the snow and mud is gone from the tundra ;)
432. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:36 pm
You’re welcome PINK!
433. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:38 pm
Pink - one other thing…. you say a “good decent” conversation… those two words are at odds with each other, as decent is less desirable than “good”… one could argue.
Perhaps a “spirited” conversation…. or “stimulating”… or “engaging”….
434. Gail Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:42 pm
JohnQ,
Oops…sorry…what I meant by that is, it’s the same as it has always been. I just haven’t got around to changing it. I don’t even know what my profile number is now. And I can’t change because by accident I added the website login to the restricted sites area, and can seem to fix it. But that’s okay, I have been busy working too much to sugardate. I still have access to the blog page…so here I am : )
By the way JohnQ, your name reminds me of a wonderful restaurant at the top of floor of a Hotel in downtown Sacramento : )
435. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:43 pm
And lastly, PINK, some typographical corrections.. in boldface…
I ‘ m honest and always speak my mind which can sometimes get me into trouble, but I always try to have people ‘ s …. I’m BY no means naive … student with A huge passion … especially horror - , who just want S to …
436. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:45 pm
Excellent ! Good, honest, thought - provoking… needs a hyphen between those two words.
437. Pink Daisy - 336652 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:47 pm
Thank you again Villa, didn’t realise I’d made so many silly little mistakes! x
438. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:47 pm
Good point VillaCypris, we all make a great team. You get every part of your profile looked at and get all points of views. It’s great that everyone can look at it and see things that other don’t :)
This posting to fast is on my last nerve!!
439. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:49 pm
You’re welcome! Much better now… :)
yes, sweetred. we do!
440. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:53 pm
Made a lemon pepper tuna sandwich on whole grain bread for lunch yummy.
random I know lol
441. Jai Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 12:58 pm
I’m thinking I should let you guys critique my profile as well. I hardly look at it anymore except to grab my profile number.
Red, that sandwich sounds yummy :)
442. girlie Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:01 pm
Good afternoon all.
Hey Villa….I’m eating quinoa too! I made a ton of it on Friday and am working my way through it. It’s a nice alternative to rice.
Silly, I would agree with Johnq. I am in Toronto too and my guess is that is not going to go far. Best of luck in your search. There are some lovely SD’s in this area .
Hey….nothing wrong with excessive love of pink (said the girl sipping coffee in a pink bathrobe!) :)
443. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:02 pm
Morning Jai!! Tell your SD I SAID to take you out lmao. grumpy ole man!!
444. Gail Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:02 pm
Jai,
You profile was good enough to attact your SD : ) You don’t need it to be critiqued….lol….
I am heading out for the day…going to the lake and a BBQ : ) Have a wonderful Sunday everyone!!!!
445. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:03 pm
girlie I am also wearing pink jammies lmao, I just noticed, that Is too funny!
446. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:04 pm
Bye Gail Have fun!!
447. Gail Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:04 pm
Sorry all…forgot to spellcheck….attract not attact : ) Adios amigos : )
448. girlie Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:04 pm
Villa…..Quinoa is a protein?! Awesome. Best news of the day.
I almost wish someone would critique mine. I found my SD but I am kinda curious now :)
449. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:06 pm
You can critique mine, Would be interested to see what you guys think
450. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:06 pm
Hold breath!! wondering what is going to be said lol
451. Jai Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:07 pm
You too Gail! :)
I gave up already Red. I’d be here all day trying to convince him lol. I’m leaving in about 15 minutes. Just waiting on my toes to drive. I’m dressed up, smelling good, and ready to go :D I went outside to tell him I was leaving. He thought I was going to check on my sisters dogs :P He was surprised when I told him I’m going to do an out day like I wanted. I’m so excited! lol Red, you should be here. We’d have a great day. It’s gorgeous outside! Ok, I’m rambling..
452. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:07 pm
Ohhh I got mail on the site, I am afraid to look lol
453. Jai Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:08 pm
Lol! My toes to dry! I’m way too excited about this. I may not come back tonight. Thinking of heading to Phoenix and making the most of it :)
454. girlie Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:09 pm
Your toes are driving today, Jai….lol :)
Sweetredhead, I am betting $10 it is Explorer.
455. Jai Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:09 pm
Lol, don’t be afraid Red. It may be your dream SD
456. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:10 pm
Jai wish I was!! We would have such a good time!! Make sure you bring his CC and spoil yourself!! lol
457. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:10 pm
A recently rediscovered ancient “grain” native to South America, quinoa was once called “the gold of the Incas,” who recognized its value in increasing the stamina of their warriors. Not only is quinoa high in protein, but the protein it supplies is complete protein, meaning that it includes all nine essential amino acids. Not only is quinoa’s amino acid profile well balanced, making it a good choice for vegans concerned about adequate protein intake, but quinoa is especially well-endowed with the amino acid lysine, which is essential for tissue growth and repair. In addition to protein, quinoa features a host of other health-building nutrients. Because quinoa is a very good source of manganese as well as a good source of magnesium, iron, copper and phosphorus, this “grain” may be especially valuable for persons with migraine headaches, diabetes and atherosclerosis.
458. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:11 pm
Lol, It was not scary. It was actually very nice :) we will see what happens.
459. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:12 pm
There’s a great website for the *best* foods…. whfoods and the domain is org.
460. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:12 pm
VillaCypris that’s all great, but how does it taste?
461. Jai Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:13 pm
Congrats Red! :)
Thanks for the great info Villa :)
462. Jai Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:13 pm
girlie, you’re out $10 lol :P
463. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:14 pm
sweetred …. since i love to correct grammar :)
sence of humor - senSe
If your looking - you’re
who know what - knowS
464. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:16 pm
It tastes great! I drizzle some grapeseed oil over it, and add black truffle salt….
or you can put cinnamon…. or anything really!
very versatile.
465. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:16 pm
lmao thanks :) So much for spell check lol
466. girlie Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:16 pm
Well this is a $10 I am happy to lose, because his emails are a nuisance.
Thanks Villa. My aunt introduced quinoa to me about a year ago and I turned my nose up, assuming it was tasteless. I surprisingly LOVE it and am pleased it’s a protein. I love it mixed with roasted veggies diced really small.
467. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:17 pm
hehehe… i’ve got my pink jammies on too. :) and my pink and white robe with my pink fuzzy slippers! lol
468. johnq Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:17 pm
Gail:
It’s not hard to remove a site from the restricted sites list, though, as is typical of Microsoft they don’t make it obvious, either.
1. Click the Start button.
2. Click Control Panel.
3. Double-click Internet Options.
4. Click the Security tab.
5. Click the Restricted Sites icon.
6. Click the Sites button.
7. The SA log-in site should be listed in the box. Select it.
8. Click Remove.
That should do it. If none of this works for you, it’s probably because you’re using an older version of Windows.
JQ
469. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:17 pm
I am going to have to try it :)
470. girlie Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:18 pm
Do mine, do mine!! 216076 :)
ooooh truffle salt! I am going to pick some of that up today. I still have at least 3 cups of quinoa left to work through.
471. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:18 pm
girlie? I am lost, whaqt was the $10 bet?
472. girlie Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:19 pm
Goodgirl….you sound very comfy!
IS anyone else getting a message about ‘posting too quickly, slow down’?
473. girlie Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:19 pm
I bet $10 that your email from a SD was from Explorer. He is out and about again.
474. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:23 pm
girlie - well-done!
a on-going partner - AN on-going
I know you mean to be cute and/or charming by saying that you want someone who will forgive you when you get “pouty” for not receiving attention…
but some might misconstrue that for neediness or dramatic…. and you don’t seem like that AT ALL based on your comments here….
just a thought! x
475. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:23 pm
girlie very nice profile :)
LMAO I already got one from him awhile back
Yes and it’s getting so annoying!!
476. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:25 pm
lol VillaCypris I thought that too, then I thought she was just trying to be funny :)
477. Jai Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:27 pm
I’m out sugars :)
Have wonderfully inspired, productive days! :D
478. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:28 pm
Aww my moms dog is laying on her little pink fluffy bed. I am so used to my big dog, she is such a little peanut!
479. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:29 pm
Have fun today Jai!! :)
480. girlie Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:29 pm
Oh I get pouty :) I don’t ever do drama but I can, on occasion, do needy…..I must admit. Luckily, my SD loves that…..I guess I look for someone with Daddy-ish tendencies and this is usually an indicator. Wow, this is a revealing post :)
I’m glad you pointed it out though. I realize it could be misinterpreted if I were looking for something different down the line.
481. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:32 pm
girlie I think we all can do pouty at some point lol And the best part is, they fall for it :)
482. johnq Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:37 pm
Girlie: no comments. Very nice profile.
Sweetredhead: other than the spelling/grammar issues noted by VillaCyrpris, I’m not thrilled with your second picture. In particular, I’m not sure why it’s cut off at the neck. It’s not hard to figure out what you’re trying to emphasize in this picture, but I think you’d be better off with a shot that also included your head. As it is, you’ve got one head shot and one headless bust shot and it’s a little disjointed.
Incidentally: very honest and classy way to deal with the weight issue. I have personal experience of someone on this site who blatantly lied about that, and I’m utterly puzzled as to why someone would do so, since the pot SD will figure it out within the first five seconds of an actual meeting anyway. Obviously a lot of SDs will not contact you based on your weight, but those wouldn’t have worked out anyway, and the ones who do contact you will be much more likely to be keepers.
JQ
483. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:38 pm
I am on my 3rd cup of coffee!! good thing I switched from sugar to equal!! No more late night chats for me lol
484. girlie Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:40 pm
Sweetredhead….yep, pouty can be sexy and cute! Especially when done at the right time.
I also like the way you deal with the weight issue. I head SO many SD’s say that women lie about this often. The way you address it seems to build some level of trust up front. If you are honest about this, SD’s will probably assume you will be honest about lots more.
485. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:43 pm
Thank you johnq. I wanted to be honest about the weight thing. Exactly they will see it when I meet then :) I agree about the pictures I really do need to get some new ones. The head shot is not a very good picture either. I had been in the pool all day and not the most attractive picture of me.
I actually wasn’t really trying to emphasize the boobs lol, was more or less trying to show body type. But I can see why you say that. I took that with my web cam and I could not get the whole head and body in there to look right :(
486. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:47 pm
girlie, thank you. It was hard for me to decide if I should put full/overweight or a few extra pounds. But the profiles I looked up that had full/over weight were REALLY big woman. I didn’t want to appear that way.
487. girlie Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 1:51 pm
No, I think you did the right thing, especially since it’s a work in progress!
Must get some (MORE!) gardening done. I had NO idea how labor intensive and expensive it is and I’m just in a little townhouse. ugh :)
488. raine Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:01 pm
Maaaan, I hate that “full/overweight” malarkey with the heat of a thousand suns! I was on the fence about choosing between that and “a few extra pounds” as well. Hi girlie, long time no read :)
Oh, to the brand spankin’ newbies: I don’t recommend using the first paragraph shown in my profile either! *that guarantees an empty inbox (again, same as mine)
489. riadh Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:12 pm
I got an email from this Explorer guy, what’s so strange about him?
490. Pink Daisy - 336652 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:14 pm
*wishes her photos would hurry up and get approved!*
491. katrina Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:16 pm
Hello, Everyone! Happy Sunday…
I had a complete whacko email me from this site. On his profile, it does not state where he lives, it just says to ask him. So I responded and asked him and - surprise, surprise - he is in Boston, which is close to me.
I think it is actually a teenager playing around. He was asking for nude photos - I referred him to the blog, and told him to read the posts by Katrina and said that is me and I don’t have nude photos and cannot imagine sending some to someone I have never even met! Seriously???
492. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:46 pm
riadh he sends out emails to everyone saying the same thing. He will be in our area in 2 weeks. We are all in different areas!
493. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 2:52 pm
I think the guy I got an email from is a con artist. We will see.
494. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 3:38 pm
I changes those little typos not I have to wait for approval ughhh I hate that part!!
495. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 3:52 pm
Great now I have mail and can’t open it!! Why did I fix those typo’s?? lmao STEPHEN!!! help!!!! please!!!!! lol Luv you :)
496. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 4:02 pm
my parents have called twice today checking on their dog. I am fine and so are your grand kids!! They are too funny!! Next time they call I am going to ask them What dog lmao
497. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 4:03 pm
Now here I am talking to myself on the blog. If I start answering myselg, call the guys in white coats!!!
498. sweetredhead Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 4:08 pm
Is anyone else getting a error massage trying to sign on to the site?
499. Red Maru *210789* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 4:14 pm
Hey sweetred its not just you. I can’t get on either. Hope this reaches as the blog is f***ing up too
500. sweetredhead Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 4:14 pm
I can get on now, how about you?
501. Red Maru *210789* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 4:16 pm
Okay my message posted but I’m still having trouble logging on(stops banging head on desk)
502. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 4:17 pm
hello :) you goin a little crazy there red?!? …must be that pot of “coffee” you made today! lmfao! ;)
503. Red Maru *210789* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 4:20 pm
Still can’t get in (resumes banging on desk)
504. Red Maru *210789* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 4:35 pm
Yea its the coffee and the fact SA site acting up…been trying to get on for about an hour now.
Shoulda laid off the coffee huh?
505. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 4:46 pm
lol :) whats goin on?? i can log in…
i just can’t post comments too quickly. i should slow down. :)
506. Red Maru *210789* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 4:50 pm
Yeah I had that problem for a while but then I could post messages. I just can’t get into the site. I get some strange error message at the top.
(Effects of the coffee have worn off :D)
507. Red Maru *210789* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 4:58 pm
That and the weather’s got me miffed…
The sun came out then changed it’s mind. I thought the rain was about to end but if weatherman is to be believed another storm is on its way. Other than the coffee lol :D
I had a good day rediscovered how much I like making scented candles got my apartment smelling good
508. Red Maru *210789* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 5:28 pm
Wow am I the only one here? It’s getting lonely
509. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 5:48 pm
Hi everyone Home from work and managed to miss the rain. Devouring a whole rotessier chicken right now. Heard from my sd and he wants to meet friday afternoon which should work out well with my lunch date with the potential, that is if the potential doesn’t flake on me when he finds out I can’t just meet anywhere and he does live about 15 miles from me.
So friday is booked up with potential lunch and sd visiting in the afternoon if he can handle the driving.
Haven’t checked my mail since I left this morning so I gotta see if I have any new messages.
Now back to my chicken and Sweetreadhead, Explorer will be in MY AREA in 2 weeks so stay away, lol :)
510. Red Maru *210789* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 5:50 pm
Hi lisa I was starting to get lonely :D
Good luck on your date
Who is this explorer I keep hearing about?
511. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 5:52 pm
RedMaru he is a guy that contacts everyone on the site and will be in their area (no matter where they live) in 2 weeks and wants to meet in exotic locations. stay on the site long enough and i’m sure he will be in your area soon, lol
512. Red Maru *210789* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 5:59 pm
‘Kay
I’ll keep a look out
Still can’t log on to SA some weird error message
513. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 5:59 pm
I can’t check it because I don’t have a profile on here anymore
514. Angela300373 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 6:03 pm
This may sound weird coming from a girl but I think intimacy is an unspoken understood part of Sugar dating……just like the financial augmentation.
No financial enhancement=aspartame.
No intimacy= aspartame.
Some people may prefer sugar substitute but I am not one of them.
On the flip side……I do have a family friend who is in every way a Sugar Daddy to me…except for the sex. He is concerned about my well being, helps me occasionally, has a generous heart. I give him companionship, clean his house occasionally, feed his cats when he is away- Basically …mutually beneficial. He has bought me a car in the past….(I had intended on repayment but he gave me “debt forgiveness” for Christmas.) We have known each other for over 10 yrs now and have always been there for each other…..so I know those types of relationships do exist……but believe they are quite rare and probably not as likely to occur on this site.
515. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 6:07 pm
Good evening Angela How’s your sugar world?
516. ApplePi Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 6:15 pm
Hello all. New girl here! I recently joined SA (found out about it from the NY Times magazine article). I always jokingly told my friends that I wish I had a benefactor or a sugar daddy so I could focus on school and more creative endeavors. Well… I didn’t know there was a social network dedicated to such, lol.
I put my profile up a couple weeks ago, and I’ve had several email exchanges since. I have never done anything like this before… I feel like I’m just making it up as I go. Kind of unsure about how to go about it. I’m also trying really hard to keep the whole thing hidden from my roommate and friends.
As for sexless sugar… hmm, well I kind of feel like “there’s no such thing as a free lunch” right? But I definitely want to find someone that I’m physically attracted to, and would WANT to sleep with… forced sex is bad sex.
517. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 6:18 pm
Welcome ApplePi
We all keep it secret, as I have my own place and am quite a bit older but my family is conservative and wouldn’t approve. I have had moderate luck, considering I’m over 40. Currently have a sd I met earlier this month who has been generous, now just getting him movitvated to continue the arrangement. I have another couple potentials with one meeting this week. It seems to happen at once, then you have a dry spell.
518. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 6:21 pm
and actually there is such thing as a “free lunch” I have had two sd meetings which involved shopping on the first meeting, they dropped me off at my place after lunch and shopping with plans for us to get together in the evening and then both cancelled.
519. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 6:26 pm
good evening!!!
welcome to the ’secret sugary underground’ applepi :)
520. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 6:27 pm
lisa~you did invest a little pre-1st-date time, no?
521. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 6:45 pm
huh both dates were first meetings and involved shopping (their ideas, these were two different dates) and then they dropped me home, and then cancelled our evening plans.
522. sweetredhead Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 6:50 pm
I have another mail on the site, but I can’t see it. Darn profile is not approved :( might just be another response saying they will come see the blog :)
523. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 6:54 pm
Good evening sweetredhead I’m cleaning the toilet right now, lol
524. sweetredhead Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 6:57 pm
Gee thanks Lisa for telling me :) hope you wash your hands before you type ewwww
wait how do you clean a tolet and be on the computer at the same time? Never mind not sure I even want to know!!
525. sweetredhead Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 7:00 pm
Anyone seen bob? Bet he is nursing a hang over lol
526. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 7:02 pm
I jump back and forth from bathroom cleaning to computer, toilet is all sparkling. Now the tub
527. sweetredhead Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 7:05 pm
come do mine when your done. I haven’t gotten to them yet
528. sweetredhead Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 7:07 pm
I have 2 bathrooms 1 tub and 2 showers, should keep you busy for awhile lol
529. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 7:14 pm
no thanks but thanks for thinking of me, lol I have 1 bedroom, 1 bath, living room, kit and an empty dining room so it’s takes a little over an hour. Of course it never looks clean because my apt needs painting, carpet needs to be burned, etc.
530. sweetredhead Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 7:52 pm
I have a living room, family room, 2 full baths 3 bedrooms, kitchen takes me way to long to clean lol
531. sweetredhead Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 7:52 pm
and dinning rooms for got that one
532. Silly Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 7:54 pm
good evening.. I’ve changed my profile and uploaded new pics.. can any SB’s or SD’s take a look and critique for me 330786 ? ooops pics still waiting to be approved. oh well
I’m in TO too.. I think there are a few on here ? would love to hear about your experience on the site..
S
533. Silly Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 7:59 pm
oh and another question, why do they have the “under 1,000$” as an option ? would that even be ’sugar’ ?!
534. O(ne) P(oint) O(f) V(iew) Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 8:06 pm
sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:49 am
“Great!! the tranny just went out on my car. I can’t afford to fix that and can’t afford a new care ughhhh Just when things where going so well for me.”
In NYC, when we say the tranny went out on a car, we usually refer to them getting all dolled up for an evening at the Eidelweiss or such. :)
Evening sugars. Hope you all have had some good times of late. It’s nice to see all the new handles joining the blog and running up those post counts. You’re forcing Stephan to keep coming up with new titles. Also nice to see more SD’s participating in the discussions as well. Gives some balanced perspectives to sugar dating.
535. raine Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 8:08 pm
I was gonna write something, but I’d better leave it be…
536. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 8:12 pm
yes they have under 1000 but If you are considering that, just choose “amount negotiable” because if you put less than 1000k the results can be as follows:
If you are sb and you put that, you are limited yourself because a sd that might give you more might give you less because that’s what you’re asking for and remember less than 1000k could be anything from 999 to 1 dollar, so dont’ pick that one
If you are a sd, a sb is going to skip your profile because it might be that you are cheap or too poor to spend more, you might be one of those that want to see a sb 3 times a week for 500 a month
537. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 8:14 pm
what is a tranny? sorry I know nothing about cars. Can’t you just pick one up and have someone put it in for you or is it something really serious?
538. Angela300373 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 8:16 pm
I am not having any trouble with the site… (mozilla)
I thought the same thing when she said the tranny went out….of course I am used to hearing a transmission referred to in that way but the visual was tooo funny.
Where has Nitemare been? I miss him.
I have no dates this weekend but I am ok with that…I have been on a date almost every weekend till now…so it is kinda nice to hang out with my cats…lol
Might see my sugar couple tomorrow but nothing set as of yet.
I talked to a great pot tonight that if we can overcome our geographical distance I think we would be amazing together… He has the right frame of mind. (Brought here by the NYT article) and he is physically HOT!
Our conversation was so great (over an hour) and he is witty, sweet, loves nature and dogs…..who could ask for more?
539. raine Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 8:23 pm
Evening, OPOV. I SO look forward to your take on this topic.
Well, regardless of the verdict—I’m neither artificial nor lazy—to qoute Jay-Z (I can’t believe I’m even quoting this man, but in this case it’s all but mandatory): I.WILL.NOT.LOSE.
540. Silly Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 8:26 pm
tranny=transmission
VERY expensive to replace.. usually about 3K$
541. Angela300373 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 8:26 pm
OMFG; The great pot I was just talking about actually sent me a reference!
I had already googled his name and that was good results (he is ceo of his company and no freaky/scary things popped up) before speaking to him when I mentioned one of the things that came up he congradulated me on doing my homework! and he even suggested I contact other sugar babes he went on a date with. I said that would be great and I just got an email with a phone # to call….
Should I call?
Just the fact he was forthcoming with that and she agreed makes me feel secure enough.
542. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 8:31 pm
evening everyone :) thinking since i’m all alone (no daughter til tomo, and sd out of town, and all my girlfriends together at the lake) i should probably walk down to the bar and enjoy being a single woman :)
angela~ yes. you should call. mainly because i’m nosey and want to hear how that conversation goes ;)
543. raine Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 8:35 pm
Hold the phone, Angela: a reference, and one who’ll talk to boot?! If that guy isn’t a catch, I don’t know who is! Now *that* is unheard of.
I can just see NitemareSD sputtering at this post, then cracking his knuckles!lol
544. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 8:36 pm
oh 3k to replace a transmission? Isn’t that the thing that hangs from the car and makes noise when it is loose? You know the thing that looks like a watering can thing? Sorry I know nothing about cars.
545. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 8:42 pm
lisa~ i believe that is the muffler :) lol
*transmission is the part that makes the car shift gears.
546. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 8:43 pm
angela~where are you from? …are you gonna call me?!? ;)
547. katrina Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 8:44 pm
Lisa I think that is the muffler
All of our cars must be on the same cycle - I just got a new water pump, steering column and alignment (second alignment in 3 months!!!). My car is a 2005 so maybe time to replace : )
548. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 8:51 pm
i just had to replace my lower left ball joint. ugh! …i know lisa~ :) it’s a part that apparently keeps my wheels on :)
549. gurlnextdoor*274735* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 8:53 pm
Aww I lost my SD. He thought that my stopping him last night meant I wasn’t into him. *shakes her head*
550. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 8:56 pm
ok I;m going to try this for the fourth time, it keeps saying im posting too fast and to slow down. :(
Thanks for explaining that goodgirl, for a moment I thought you had a body part you shouldn’t have, lol
Sorry to hear that gurlnextdoor. He didn’t understand the allowance thing when you explained it to him? Sounds like he was looking for free samples. :(
551. gurlnextdoor*274735* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:00 pm
Well he emailed me while I was at work today, but I emailed him explaining my actions. Hey if he would’ve given me an allowance then we would have had sex, but this ride isn’t free. ;)
552. raine Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:01 pm
Oh man, gnd, I’m sorry. No other words for that one.
Geez, ladies, it’s that season for your cars to start “blocking”, huh?
553. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:08 pm
No car trouble for me, lol :)
That really sucks gurlnextdoor Funny how these guys are ready to be intimate right away but want to take it slow on the allowance part. The trial period I mentioned should only involve going to dinner, talking, movies, etc if he wasn’t giving you a trial allowance, he doesn’t get no trial anything else,lol
554. raine Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:08 pm
(Am I the only one who isn’t being clocked by the site for speeding?)
555. gurlnextdoor*274735* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:09 pm
Haha raine, good one.
Yeah it’s ok. I think I might take a break from actively seeking a SD for now. But I’m gonna stick with the blog still, so don’t worry I’m not going anywhere. ;)
556. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:10 pm
What type of retail do you work at gurlnextdoor? I used to work at Target which sucked because of the late nights and folding clothes and stuff, then an office store that was ok except the stress was too much. Now I work at a supermarket which is pretty good, no stress. Lotsa physical work and it can be tiring but it’s the best retail job i’ve had.
557. gurlnextdoor*274735* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:12 pm
Exactly lisa. I mean really I’m not starving for sex, I have a boyfriend who can give that to me. But really, if you want to give me a trial run for an arrangement without any allowance, then what makes you think you’re gonna get some sex from me? Oh well…
558. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:12 pm
oops I’m posting to fast I need to SLOW DOWN lol
559. gurlnextdoor*274735* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:13 pm
I work at TJ Maxx/Homegoods. Two stores in one which means more work, lol. But I mostly work on the TJ Maxx side which means I’m always being tempted to buy some more clothes.
560. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:14 pm
I have my lover to so not desperate for sex. Funny they want to take it slow with the allowance but want to get some action right away. Kinda like waiting to see if the lotto ticket is a winner before buying it, lol
561. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:16 pm
I haven’t been to tj max but we have a Marshalls HOmegoods close to where I live. I love shopping at Marshalls, lots of good prices on clothes and lingerie. When I worked at target, I shopped all the time for any thing that was on clearance. Now at the supermarket, I just buy sodas and food whenever I need to.
562. gurlnextdoor*274735* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:16 pm
Lol yep, that’s a good analogy lisa. I don’t get it, they want the woman to put out before putting out some cash on their part. Sugar daddy relationships are supposed to be MUTUALLY beneficial, not beneficial to one person. But I guess he didn’t get that memo.
563. gurlnextdoor*274735* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:21 pm
Yep I like Marshalls too, like TJ Maxx the prices are low and even better when you can get stuff on clearance. But right now I’m supposed to be saving up for a summer vacation with my boyfriend so can’t go all crazy on buying stuff at the moment.
How are my comments posting too quickly?!?!? I’m writing something like every 3 minutes, lol.
564. Apple-332079 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:22 pm
Woo, got my profile number up! It took me a couple days to figure out how to look at other SB’s profiles. (For anyone that wants to know and doesn’t already know how: click “Profile” in the menu bar, then do a search for similar profiles, it’s all the way at the bottom. Click on any profile, then substitute the number in your browser’s address bar with the profile ID you actually want to see.)
Any thoughts on my profile? Does it come off over eager? Too young?
565. gurlnextdoor*274735* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:24 pm
Hey Apple, don’t think I’ve seen you on the blog before, so welcome. :)
I’ll be back later, gotta go eat dinner.
566. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:25 pm
ok for the third time! keeps saying i’m posting too fast
I think many of the guys want free sex and if they can get a potential sb to put out, they will make an excuse that it just isn’t going to work to make an excuse to avoid parting with any money. If they are not looking to pay for sex, then simply pay the allowance and don’t have sex for a while. it’s simple, lol
567. O(ne) P(oint) O(f) V(iew) Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:33 pm
Hey GND
I have heard of this line from a few of the ladies I have dated from the site who have told me how guys are always telling them they want to “have a trial run first” just to make sure there is some level of compatibility. That’s just plain bull shit and they are just looking to score and are probably fake daddy’s to begin with. A true sugar gentleman would display much more class than that.
568. O(ne) P(oint) O(f) V(iew) Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:35 pm
lisa, it is not specific to you - it is a software thing that is preventing more than one person from posting at the same time. The database id getting jammed up and that’s how they slow it down until it catched up with itself. It just did it to me and I ain’t running off at the fingers.
569. O(ne) P(oint) O(f) V(iew) Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:38 pm
Wow! My s’s are coming up as d’s. That should be “is” not “id” and “catches” not “catched”
My bad!
570. Jai*277171* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:43 pm
You’ve got mail sweetred :)
Evening everyone. :) I’ve yet to catch up on the blog. I just wanted to pop in and say hello. :D JQ, Villa, Red, girlie, and any one else willing to do it: My profile number is 277171. Open to suggestions :)
571. johnq Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:43 pm
Apple: excellent profile. Very well-written and gives a good impression of you as a real human being.
One comment: the San Diego-Manhattan thing is kind of confusing. First, the headline implies that you’re moving permanently from San Diego to NY, though apparently that’s not the case. In addition, it’s not clear whether you’re looking for a San Diego SD (who would presumably have to accept a break during the summer) or a NY SD (who would presumably have to accept that the arrangement would only last for 3 months). I would add some text explaining exactly what you’re looking for.
Note to the site: I’m getting the “you are posting too quickly” warning despite the fact that I haven’t posted for several hours. You’ve obviously got a problem.
572. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:44 pm
:) It did it to me earlier and I hadn’t typed anything for a couple hours.
Not judging anyone, but i really dislike phrases like ‘thinks he’ll have a trial run’ or ‘free sex’ or won’t ‘pay’ me until we’ve been intimate.
Maybe it’s just me???
For me, being a sugar baby means being a part-time girlfriend, who has a part-time boyfriend, that just so happens to have a lot more money than me and therefore helps me out financially. (because he likes me. not because i let him f*** me) Sex is part of being in a romantic relationship with someone. Whether they have money or not. Full time or not.
573. gurlnextdoor*274735* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:45 pm
Yep OPOV, that’s what I said, pure bull shit. But hey, at least I did get a really good dinner out of the situation.
574. gurlnextdoor*274735* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:49 pm
GG, yeah that’s what I always thought a SB was, a part time girlfriend. I’m there when he wants and needs me and gone the rest of the time. I don’t know if the fact that I said I thought an arrangement was like a friends with benefits type thing threw him off, but oh well. His loss…
575. Jai*277171* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:50 pm
I’m a speed typer, so I’m having trouble keeping up with everyone :)
Sorry to hear about your loss gurl. But, as always, better you know now rather than later :)
What up gg?! :D
576. Jai*277171* Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:54 pm
Off to dinner with my SD :) I’ll check back later.
I’ll see you at the bar gg :D
577. katrina Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 9:56 pm
Hello, Everyone!
I am curious if anyone is going to be answering the ad on this site to be on a tv show discussing the SD/SB lifestyle?
578. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:00 pm
Hi Jai!!! :)
I thought I might walk up to the bar~ it’s stumbling distance to my bed~ lol! But, since I’ve been hangin out in my jammies all day, and it’s already 9pm here, I haven’t really decided if I should…
How was your day out?
579. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:00 pm
Katrina~ i’m not totally sure, but i thought that might be a spam ad?
580. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:02 pm
Gurl~ that sucks. Sorry :(
581. sweetredhead Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:03 pm
now I have 3 messages I can’t read :(
Good evening everyone
582. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:04 pm
Have a good evening Jai
Yes gurlnextdoor it’s good that you stood up and didn’t let him use you, you would really be feeling crappy if you had.
Just got off the phone with my bestfriend, saved by the battery dying, lol
583. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:06 pm
I hope you can read them soon sweetreadhead, they might be from explorer and he might have left your area before you get a chance to read his messages, lol
584. johnq Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:07 pm
Katrina:
I believe the show is actually a reality show in which some number of SBs will chase after one (or possibly more than one) SD.
Any SB who participates should expect to be portrayed as a brainless golddigger.
For some reason, a large number of Americans who would hate to make fools of themselves in private are willing to go to great lengths to make fools of themselves in front of millions of people, so I suspect the producers will have no trouble filling their casting calls. Assuming, that is, that it’s not just a fairly clever scam designed to get gullible SBs to take off their clothes as part of an “audition.”
JQ
585. sweetredhead Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:10 pm
explorer won’t write to me again, got rid of him a long time ago lol
586. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:11 pm
well he still might be in your area in 2 weeks, lol
I wonder what “exotic location” he is in now, lol
587. sweetredhead Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:13 pm
I will not be on no tv reality show. I like my privacy and discretion is important to me as an SB and most liely important to an SD I am with.
588. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:14 pm
my mom would kill me, lol
589. katrina Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:15 pm
I wonder why Explorer hasn’t contacted me? I feel a bit excluded… : )
I would never be on tv - I don’t even post my photos. I just wondered why they are doing it. I cannot understand why either SBs or SDs woulod agree to be on tv with their choices.
590. katrina Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:18 pm
Plus who would want to be on tv now anyway - the unforgiving scrutiny of HD!!! :)
591. sweetredhead Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:18 pm
My son is outside playing with the frogs!! BOY’s!!
592. SincereSD Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:20 pm
I’ve come across some sexless sugar profiles and I have to say I skip over them. That’s not what I’m looking for as a SD. I like how Angela calls them aspartame.
As much I like the seduction and the chase, I have to say I’m a lot less patient than I used to be I’ve been conned by a previous SB needing promising intimacy when she is ready and stupidly I fell for it. While I don’t push, if the pot SB says she is going to take her time to decide or unsure whether intimacy will be involved … it’s unlikely I will continue to see her.
Fool me once, shame on you … I don’t be fooled twice again.
Hmmm, I think NightmareSD is rubbing off on me. I’m definitely getting jaded and a bit tired of people treating me as a walking ATM. Maybe I should change my name to InsincereSD.
593. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:21 pm
Katrina, don’t panic, i’m sure explorer will be in your area in 2 weeks, lol
594. girlie Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:21 pm
IS this the profile that appears on the main page? I assumed it was site sponsored in some way.
How did you find that out, JohnQ. SOunds very Bachelor-like. I am sure that ad is getting TONS of response.
595. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:22 pm
sincereSd how bout “brokeSD” that should work, lol
596. sweetredhead Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:23 pm
SincereSD I think we are all being coming that way a bit. To many fakes who have “played” us. It is not only on the Sd side.
597. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:23 pm
How about a show with 1 sb chasing 100 sds?
598. sweetredhead Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:25 pm
I think that would make it the other way around lisa lol
599. sweetredhead Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:26 pm
I need my profile approved :(
600. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:28 pm
100 sds, 100 allowance payments, early retirement, lol
I was speeding again :(
601. katrina Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:28 pm
SincereSD - what is your profile #?
602. girlie Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:33 pm
SIncere, you will find her. How long have you been here?
603. sweetredhead Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:34 pm
O(ne) P(oint) O(f) V(iew) Says: to funny
604. johnq Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:41 pm
Katrina:
For lots and lots of people, being on tv is like winning the lottery: a life-altering experience that will give their lives meaning. I absolutely guarantee they could draw at least several hundred women from this site, at least if they could figure out how to reach them. I suspect the kind of women who would be most interested in this are not reading this blog, and probably not reading much at all.
Girlie: there was a single post placed on the blog by these people a couple of days ago (or maybe a week ago; I can’t really remember). It struck me at the time as kind of interesting, and even more interesting that until now no one even mentioned it. If they’re running some kind of ad, I haven’t seen it.
JQ
605. girlie Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:46 pm
You know what, I totally saw it. No one commented on it…..I noticed too. I saw the first sentence, assumed it was spam and didn’t read the rest.
The mods approved it, which is odd.
606. katrina Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:47 pm
Sorry - it did not even occur to me that SDs would not be able to view the ad:
Hello,
My name is Stephan Smith and I am the blogger and director of SeekingArrangement.com.
A major TV network is casting for a sit-down chat with classy, sassy and gorgeous sugars from our site. You will have a casual sit-down chat with a very famous TV personality about what it’s like living after the recession and why you prefer successful men.
Don’t miss this very IMMEDIATE opportunity!
You will be compensated for your time.
Please give SeekingArrangement director Stephan Smith a call at 775-450-4856, or reply to this message with your name, email address and contact number IMMEDIATELY!
Thank you!
Stephan Smith
Director,
Stephan@SeekingArrangement.com
info@seekingarrangement.com
607. O(ne) P(oint) O(f) V(iew) Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:51 pm
Re: msg from Stephan
Figures he would verify himself as diamond status.
:D
608. Beach_Girl*306486 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:54 pm
Hey OPOv how you been
Hi everyone!
609. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:56 pm
crap… any of you remember when i sent an email to stephan about the refund guy??? sent one out and then someone told me a diff e-mail to send it to…
no wonder i never got a response…
sent out TWO random emails that day!! :) lmfao
610. Beach_Girl*306486 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:58 pm
Goodgirl~ i gave you that same email address.. didn’t you send it to both addresses you were given?
611. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 10:59 pm
the budget says 5001-10000 monthly… hmmmm?? anyone want to see ME on TV? lol :)
612. Beach_Girl*306486 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:01 pm
goodgirl~ go for it… lol
613. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:02 pm
my bad beach :) you did… i just checked my ’sent’ box again. that was the 1st email i sent. whoever gave me the second one wasn’t the same.
:) yay! only 1 random email!
614. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:03 pm
ya, right! I won’t even use the webcam!!! lol ;)
615. Beach_Girl*306486 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:06 pm
oh come on webcam isn’t that bad,,,,, :D
lol
616. Beach_Girl*306486 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:07 pm
ok sugars i’m off , have a good night all!
talk soon!
617. sweetredhead Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:09 pm
I am out too, my head hurts :( Have a good night everyone.
618. johnq Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:13 pm
I suspect that message from Stephan is only going to SBs, since I haven’t seen it. It also doesn’t match my recollection of the blog posting that I was referring to. My best guess is that Stephan is talking about an afternoon Oprah-type show, whereas my recollection is that the blog posting appeared to relate to a reality show. It’s possible I’m misremembering.
I would guess that all publicity for the site is good publicity, but I’m not sure that’s true for the individuals involved. As I recall, people involved in earlier media events (e.g., the NYT article) ended up feeling somewhat burned.
For what it’s worth, any SB who goes on tv to talk about this lifestyle should expect to be portrayed as a golddigger or worse. It’s theoretically possible that a network would run a more sympathetic story, but in the real world it’s highly unlikely. Afternoon talk show hosts reflect the views of their audiences, and the audiences for those shows will inevitably feel scorn for SBs. At least the women in the audience. The men will probably be mostly interested in figuring out how they can get in on the action, but they’re too small a percentage of the audience to affect the coverage.
So anyone who wants to retain much dignity should probably avoid this, but for those mainly interested in marketing their services, this may be an excellent opportunity. Hint: stiletto heels and a low cut black dress will increase your chances of getting on.
JQ
619. Angela300373 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:21 pm
OK!
I called his “reference” and got voice mail so I left my name and why I called and said I would call some other time.
We talked on the phone more and we really, really like each other.
I mentioned my amazon wish list and he looked at it and bought me a digital camera. TODAY IS THE FIRST TIME WE HAVE SPOKE!
I told him about the blog so maybe he will pop in sometime. He (like the other SD’s on the blog) is genuine pure cane sugar!
He is all about establishing trust and appreciating me for who I am. I feel like I have hit the sugar jackpot! I am trying not to get my hopes up to high but so far …he has blown all my other pots out of the water with his sincerity. I did receive a gift on the first meet (the $500 watch) but then the guy asked me to follow him home.
This guy has one-upped him and gave me a gift just after one phone conversation.
620. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:23 pm
JQ~ hello :) I agree with you.
BTW, the ad is on the log in page. When you log in at 1st (as an sb) there are featured member profiles at the top of the page. It’s there. It says ‘calling all sugarbabies’. I kept passing it up, thinking it was a crazy sd who wanted multiple girls! lol (being in a group relationship isn’t my thing) lmao :)
621. Angela300373 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:24 pm
:) ;O :)
Doing her happy dance!!!!!!!!!!!!
622. SincereSD Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:26 pm
Lisa - I’m not broke yet but between the stock market and my “sincerity” to pot SBs, I may be headed in that direction.
Sweetred - I hope you don’t never lose that optimistic outlook of yours. As for me, I’m just becoming wiser and more skeptical. As of last week, I decided I’m not freely opening my wallet without agreeing on what the agreement will be. I had this sudden epiphany in the middle of a conversation with a pot SB and finalized what was happening.
Katrina - It’s 281444. I reactivated my profile last week.
Girlie - I’ve been on the blog off and on since last summer. I became a SD several years ago quite by accident when I was seeing a student in Montreal and she lost her job. For some reason, I’ve become a lightning rod for drama queens and women with substance abuse. I took a short hiatus from the SD scene and deciding whether to resume my search or not.
623. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:26 pm
Angela I’m soooo excited for you!!! *puts mom voice on* just don’t get so caught up that you forget, saftey 1st :)
I’M GETTING SICK OF SLOWING DOWN!! :)
624. lisa Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:31 pm
well i’m going to go lay down and watch some tv. blog is running too slow tonight. Gonna sleep late tomorrow. Good night everyone
625. johnq Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:37 pm
It seems the SB log-in page and the SD log-in page are completely different. When I log in I get a page of text that’s mostly made up of warnings about various scams.
Looking at those warnings more carefully, it strikes me that one of them is somewhat relevant to a subject that comes up in the blog from time to time, i.e., whether a SD should advance travel expenses to an SB who has to travel for a first meeting. The site warning reads as follows:
“Never send money to anyone you just met using Western Union, even if they are in the US, UK or Canada. There are reports of Sugar Babies asking for travel expenses and dissappearing once they receive the money. No matter how much he or she may blame you for not trusting them, NEVER SEND MONEY to a stranger.”
I’m a little confused by the Western Union reference, since if it’s a mistake to send money to a stranger I’m not sure why the particular medium of transmission makes a difference. Nevertheless, the site appears to be warning against something that a lot of SBs insist they would require before traveling to a first date.
I’m not taking any position on the pros and cons of sending money in advance, but SBs getting resistance should probably know that the site warns against it.
JQ
626. johnq Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:42 pm
In rereading my post, I noticed that “disappearing” is misspelled. That’s copied directly from the site’s SD post-log in start page. I kind of understand why profiles contain misspellings, but it’s difficult to comprehend why a professional website contains text that hasn’t been spellchecked. Embarrassing.
627. Angela Says:
May 24th, 2009 at 11:42 pm
Yes Girlie! I am always safe…the problem usually is they get offended/squirrely when I bring up my safety “hoops” (for them to jump through)
Not only is he not offended but he is volunteering info like crazy! I have his Mom’s phone number and his real estate agents number too!
I jokingly told him it was like on a job interview ….you only put the references that you know will say good things, and he said I could call his ex wife if I wanted dirt….LOL
628. SFsuga Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:02 am
Angela: You have definitely hit the sugar jackpot! If he is willing to buy you a digital camera before even meeting you in person, imagine what he will give you once you have established an arrangement. When are you going to meet him?
629. Jai Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:24 am
Evening again :) How is everyone?
630. O(ne) P(oint) O(f) V(iew) Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:28 am
Yes johnq, SB main pages and SD/SM main pages are different. If you want to see what you are missing, you can easily create your own “sugar baby” profile and see what the fuss is all about.
631. girlie Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:32 am
JohnQ, my guess is the Western Union thing is because it is untraceable as far as I know. I have never used it to send or receive money but just assumed it is reasonable anon. It’s so unfortunate a warning even has to exist.
Best of luck Angela. That was a very thoughtful gift! A reference….now that is interesting. Do you have questions prepared? :)
632. girlie Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:33 am
Hey OPOV! Welcome back. Jai too :) hey you!
And with that…..off to bed for me. I’m turning into a pumpkin.
633. Clea Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:43 am
Hi all-
Thank you again for the advice yesterday. Angela- you lucky gal!
Good luck.
Update- I told my pot SD that I could not go forward with him and offered to give back his gift. He insisted that I keep it and wanted to see me again anyway and take me to dinner. He is a very sweet man.
Another question- I was supposed to have a date with an SD about 10 days ago and he had to cancel because he was going out of town. He wrote and said he’d be in touch. At the time I thought that was a blow off.
I really was attracted to him and liked him and thought we would have made a good SD/SB pairing. I have not heard from him since. I know he is a very busy man, married etc. I am going on with my life of course, meeting other pot SDs but still feel like we would have had a connection.
Question for the SDs- did you ever have a SB you liked but had to put the meeting on hold for a while and were not in contact with that person until it was a better time.
I am wondering if I contacted him if he would feel I was nagging him and if he wanted to be in contact he would be. Would that be a turn off if I just said hi, how are things? or should I just assume he has moved on?
For the SBs- have you ever had a pot SD disappear only to show up again weeks, or months later and have things work out?
I don’t want to blow it by nagging him but I would stop my pot SD search if I thought he might still be interested.
Thanks guys in advance~
634. sweetredhead Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:46 am
SincereSD I have had my fair share of disappointments, lies and drama from Sd’s I just like to believe that most people are still honest. I have never been a negative person and I am not going to let a few jerks change that :)
635. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:50 am
Clea~ hello :)
yes. this has happened to me. unfortunatly, after a fairly nice lunch he sent me an email that was less than tastefull. anyway, back to your question…i’d say if he told you he’d be in touch, you should let him contact you, especially since you mentioned that he’s married. however, if he’s still on the site looking for an sb, you could always send out a flirty little message.
it’s a toss up.
…gotta love the ‘poof daddy’ :) lol
636. Gail Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:51 am
Evening Sugars….back from the lake and bbq…I am 4 shades darker…a nice golden brown.
John Q…thank you for taking the time to help unrestrict myself for SA. It was awfully nice of you to provide me with the details step by step. I have Windows Vista…(yuck) I followed your intstructions, but when I got the the part where I find the website name, it was not there. I searched for it quite a few times. I suppose I will be a blogger forever.
Hello Jai : ) Did you get to go out to play today? (Smile)
637. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:51 am
i’m with ya red! :) how are you tonight?
638. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:53 am
good evening gail :)
hi again jai!! what did you do today?
639. O(ne) P(oint) O(f) V(iew) Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:53 am
gail, it could have also been blocked inadvertently by your firewall software
640. Ambiguities Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:54 am
Evenin’ all ( jai-sweetred-girlie-clea-sfsug) Sure I am missing someone here…… Sorry I didin’t get to say bye this morning- I was running late for work. How is everybody tonight?
641. sweetredhead Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:54 am
Clea The only experience I have had with that is the guy that wants anal and swallowing and wants me to meet him for dinner and straight to a hotel for $10,000 a month lmao. I keep telling him no and every few weeks he trys again. Like I have changed my morals in that amount of time or something. Or maybe he thinks I don’t have an SD and I might be desperate enough to take him up on his offer, I think NOT!!
642. sweetredhead Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:57 am
I am good, goodgirl, my headache has dulled some :) Hoping I can go to sleep soon :)
643. Clea Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 1:05 am
Hi Sweetred- what an asshole~ pun intended! Hope you feel better soon. I get headaches as well so I feel for ya.
Goodgirl- he has not checked in at this site since then. So he could be out of the country. I hope.
Just wish I knew either way, know what I mean?
Goodnight everyone.
644. sweetredhead Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 1:06 am
I don’t get headaches often, I have had very few. But when I do I have them all day and nothing helps :(
645. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 1:08 am
i’m goin to bed also. sorry i missed you at the bar jai :) just couldn’t bring myself to get out of my jammies today! lol! what a nice relaxed day. i don’t think i’ve spent the whole day in my pj’s since my daughter was born! :)
646. Gail Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 1:08 am
Thanks O(ne) P(oint) O(f) V(iew). I will check that tommorrow : ) I really appreciate you taking time to help. Maybe when I finally get this fixed everyone will finally get to see my profile : )
Hello goodgirl : ) and off to bed I go…it was a warm, beautiful day at the lake. I really went there to start my summer tan. Until tommorrow sugars!!!
647. Gypsyeyes Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 1:09 am
Hi everybody…I’m new here….
Just wanted to get some advise as I am new to being a SB as well….
648. Gypsyeyes Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 1:10 am
I have been talking to a pot SD who wants me to fly to vegas all expenses, but we have never met. He promises shopping, spa, entertainment….but I don’t want to just rush into something.
649. sweetredhead Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 1:11 am
Hi Gypsyeyes, welcome :) Ask anything you like I am sure we can help you. It’s kind of late but I think some are still here.
650. johnq Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 1:15 am
Gail,
What exactly happens when you try to go to the login page?
JQ
651. sweetredhead Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 1:16 am
Gypsyeyes This is common. All you have to do is get the flight info he gives you and check it out make sure it;s a non refundable ticket and round trip. Just get the confirmation number from him. Also confirm you hotel reservations and make sure they are paid for. And as always have a back up plan, have money with you. Make sure someone knows where you are. Have someone check in on you.
Sometimes another Sb is in your area and you can ask them to be your back up. We have some great people here who would be happy to help you.
The best advice I can give you is always go with your gut, if it feels wrong than it is. If he seems nice and honest, then go have a good time :)
652. Ambiguities Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 1:33 am
sweetred: great advice! I never thought of having a another sb as a ack up - Brilliant sister! How’s the headache ? going away I hope :)
653. Jai Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 1:38 am
I had a great everyone who asked :) I went up to Chandler by way of the roads less travelled…literally. It was great and relaxing. When I got back into town, my SD and I went to dinner. I tried to find him a father’s day gift, but no success. Still fun :)
654. Jai Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 1:39 am
You’ve got mail you can actually open sweetred :)
655. sweetredhead Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 1:40 am
No still have it. Took 600 mgs of motrin if that doesn’t work I have tramadol, will see if that helps. But I don’t want to take both. I just took more motrin. Have this headache all day :( Nothing has helped. I found the tramadol so hopefully that helps if the mortrin doesn’t, in about 4 hours I can take it lol
656. sweetredhead Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 1:43 am
I am off to bed. Sweet dreams everyone.
657. Ambiguities Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 1:49 am
Nite sweetred… do hope yah feel better.
Jai- sounds like a great day you had!
658. Angela300373 Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 3:11 am
I think he would be most generous as he is the type that feels joy in giving…….just my kind of person!
As far as when we will meet, he is in Wyoming so it might be a while. (I am very anxious/excited to meet but it will have to be worked out. )
I recently changed my schedule so I get 2(quant) 4 day weekends a month.
f,s, s, m.
I would be willing to travel for the first meet as long as he ensures a safe trip. Non-refundable ticket….the whole 9 yards. (and his references check out…lol…I’m sure they will….)
In other news…..I changed my profile pic and was immediately still able to view my profile (with 2 pics….3rd awaiting approval) and was able to access my mail!
Yaaaaaaa! NO more “waitin’- on- my -profile- to -get -approved” BLUES!
659. Apple-332079 Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 4:56 am
johnq: Thanks for the kind words. I agree, the part about my location IS a bit ambiguous… maybe because I’m not too sure what I want either, hmm.
660. gurlnextdoor*274735* Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 6:00 am
Most random thing happened, I was bored and went into a chat room tonight and started talking to this older gentleman. He was really nice and polite and asked to see some pics of me. I sent them to hi m and he said “wow you’re hot. you need a daddy to take care of you so you don’t have to work.” I was like woah, wtf!
661. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 9:21 am
Good morning everyone.
gurlnextdoor Wow how weird. What’s the chat room lol
662. lisa Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 9:31 am
Good morning everyone. Just got up, a beautiful sunny day here. Off the shower
663. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 9:40 am
Morning Lisa. Beautiful day here too. Looks like my BBQ is on :)
664. NitemareSD Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 9:41 am
Off the shower? Sounds a little homicidal.
Looks like what you need is a bird bath.
665. lisa Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 9:44 am
Hi Nitemare, welcome back Hi sweetreadhead
Getting ready to go wash soon and then family is coming to visit later this morning. No barbecue here, city ordinance :( only if you want to drag your grill to the middle of the parking lot and who would want to do that here
666. lisa Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 9:44 am
Percy had his bubble bath a couple days ago
667. lisa Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 9:54 am
going to do laundry now and then visiting with family. Have a good day everyone.
668. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 10:18 am
HAPPY MEMORIAL DAY!!! 8)
Nitemare….. where in the world have you been??????? Preparing the lawn???? ;)
Glad the BBQ is on Sweetred! Gorgeous here as well!
669. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 10:57 am
Taking a break from cooking and cleaning. BBQ’s are a lot or work!! lol
670. NitemareSD Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 10:59 am
Babe, nothing more will happen here until you show up. The wasps are dead and the mosquitoes MIA, but I can’t get the guy to clean the hot tub until “thursday.”
I’m counting on you to head the relief effort and screen the SBs on a need based formula for admission.
671. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 11:02 am
screen the SBs on a need based formula for admission.
hmmm wondering what the requirements are for this little party lmao
672. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 11:05 am
Stomping my feet!! My profile is still not approved!! hehe Like I expect the powers to be to be at home waiting on people like me to mess with their profiles lmao
673. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 11:08 am
Hopefully it is the literal wasps which are dead, not the metaphoric WASPs !!!!!
And here we are back to lexical ambiguity….
Ok! I shall screen the potential tent-occupants…. 8)
674. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 11:09 am
I need a paid member SB to look at a profile for me pleaseeeeee. and see the last country o f origin.
675. sweetredhead*269443* Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 11:12 am
NM ughhh can’t get his profile number till my profile is approved. OK this really sucks!!
676. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 11:14 am
I can do it sweetred… although, I’ve noticed in the last day or two that on some profiles the country of log-in shows up as ” - ” …. i wasn’t aware that we can block that feature ?
677. lisa Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 11:15 am
Hi
Back from doing laundry. Waiting for family to come over in about an hour.
678. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 11:17 am
Morning Lisa! :)
679. lisa Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 11:27 am
Good mornign VillaCypris :)
I keep getting stopped for posting too fast, odd
680. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 11:31 am
That was happening a lot yesterday…. they must be tweaking the site….
681. lisa Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 11:34 am
slow down VillaCypris you’re posting too fast, lol
682. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 11:36 am
That’s what happens when one is uber-brilliant… the mind races faster than the fingers can type… hahahahaha… what are you doing today?
683. lisa Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 11:45 am
I just finished doing laundry. So glad they opened a big washateria across the street from me, it’s a 2 minute walk. Used to have to walk 4 blocks. Now i’m waiting for my family to come over in a while and then we are walking down to the Central market that is a few blocks from me. It’s a big Heb grocery store that has sampling, all kinds of foods, and it’s huge but not boxy like w-mart. I’ve got to pick up some stuff for my daughter and get a few things myself. Hoping to have a couple sugar dates later this week.
684. gurlnextdoor*274735* Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 11:46 am
Yes sweetred, very weird indeed. But hey, if he wants a SB then I’ll give it a go with him, lol. ;)
NM I’m afraid to go to any parties you may be hosting. This scenario is starting to sound very Hansel and Gretal like. Everything seems normal and wonderful on the outside until you enter the residence only to be greeted with a situation akin to that of a sweatshop. Lol, just kidding with you.
685. gurlnextdoor*274735* Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 11:49 am
Good luck lisa with your sugar dates later this week… and have fun at the market. Free food samples are always great! One of the few situations in which it is good to try before you buy (note: usually not a good idea in sugar dating) :)
686. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 11:50 am
Sounds like a fun day! Yea, I was reading about your Friday… will be exciting!
Gurlnextdoor…. don’t worry… no ’sweatshop’ conditions under my watch… unless it is for us to indulge in some bikram yoga !!
687. lisa Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 11:51 am
good morning gurlnextdoor are you proceeded forward in seach of a new sd or have you found one? I have’t heard from my sd or my potentails today but it’s a holiday so I don’t expect too. Have only one potental set for friday and the second one that wrote had contacted me when I first joined and then vanished, only to pop up when I unhid my profile. So he’s probably flaky.
688. lisa Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 11:53 am
yes free food samples, not sb samples, lol They also have samples of gourmet coffee. The sampling had stopped because of the swine flu scare but I think everyone this back to normal now as the store that I work at has been putting it’s samples out again.
689. Scully Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 11:57 am
Afternoon All!
Hope the weekend treated you all well. Someone can take the rain back that they sent to MO!!!!
How’s Sugarland doing? I’ve been cleaning house all weekend preping for kids to do summer visitation, hopefully I will at least get a date before they get back!
I suppose I should get back to cleaning :S
Scully
690. Gail Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 11:59 am
Morning Sugars : )
John Q-This is the message:
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I know that I am using the correct login and password. And I did everything above. But it’s still not working. Oh well….maybe I will find my SD on the blog : )
691. Jai Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 11:59 am
Morning everyone :) How are you all doing today?
Feeling any better Red?
692. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:00 pm
Hey Scully, Gail and Jai! Happy Memorial day !
693. Jai Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:05 pm
Back at you Villa :)
694. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:08 pm
Everytime I see your name on here, Jai…. I think of Miraval…. good association! :)
695. lisa Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:09 pm
Good morning Gail, Jai I need to slow down, i’m posting too fast
696. goodgirl*313749 Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:29 pm
happy memorial day everybody! :) no sugar for me today either. :( i hope i can see my sd this week!
697. Scully Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:30 pm
Ok, I give up on the house cleaning, it’s a never ending task!!!
I actually logged back in and got an email :D. Ok, so don’t make fun of me if I get excited. I’ve only had about 5 total emails. And most of those, well let’s just say not good. He seems nice and very sweet. Do the profile number show that you’ve been on here awhile? His number starts with the number 1. Yes, I’m a little geeky about that sort of thing. It makes me wonder how long he’s been on the site, if he’s having issues like everyone else with finding someone or if he’s a player. Am I paranoid to be like this?
Scully
698. Jai Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:32 pm
Lol :) I wish I could go..and I think we are all speed posters.
699. Scully Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:33 pm
Hey Happy Memorial Day everyone!
I tried to post a more personal message with names on it……..I uhh apparently am posting too fast?
Scully
700. johnq Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:33 pm
Gail:
Your browser is set up to block cookies. Are you using Internet Explorer? If so, click Start, double-click Internet Options and click the Security tab. Select the trusted sites icon. Click the Sites button. Type the SA login address into the “Add this website to the zone” box and click add.
That should probably do it, though it’s impossible to know for sure without knowing more about the security settings you have set up.
Note: you need the exact and complete login address. Your best bet is to go to the login page (not the error message page you’re getting), select the entire address in the address box, copy it, and then paste it in the Add the website to this zone box.
Let me know if this works. If not you may need to reset some of your security settings.
JQ
701. johnq Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:41 pm
One more thing: in the Trusted sites window you have to make sure the “Require a server verification” box is unchecked.
JQ
702. VillaCypris *276489* Says:
May 25th, 2009 at 12:45 pm
Hi JohnQ -
Your comment yesterday: “I love semantics in the morning. Very sexy.”
Reminds me of Kilgore in Apocalypse Now …. “I love the smell of napalm in the morning.”
what a great movie!
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